I think the monogamy thing is a bit of a red herring - I only put that because open relationship suggested something else to me. Call it you what you will - I was clear about what we actually have.
I also think the three way thing is a red herring as well as this is not what is causing the problem in my opinion. When he first suggested it, which was after I had cheated (again call it what you will) I was very apprehensive because I thought it would reopen old wounds; but in actual fact it was not awkward at all and merely harmless fun.
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I have spoken to him now and he accepts that the lice came from the guy the other weekend rather than me cheating and that he had panicked, and I accepted I had behaved foolishly or insensitively, so this is a start, but it's still a long-term issue.
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It's all work keeping a couple going strong... and a lot of understanding and love... Keep it up, guys.
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Wow, you dug a deep craphole for yourself, huh?
I would suggest that you stop "threesomes" for at least 6 months to a year and just focus on him.
Having this other friend he doesnt know about just gives more credit to the fact that you have no interest in telling him the truth about anything (as far as he see's it).
Whether he's just a friend or not, your BF/hubby should be aware of these people and have access to their phone numbers. What if something happened and you werent able to reach your BF out of town? Your BF could call your friends to see if they have heard from you or to drive by your place to see if everything is ok.
This works both ways too.
You cant be in a relationship with someone and have your own private world on the side. You might get away with it for a while, but you WILL get caught.
If you love this guy so much, then WHY do you even attempt such feats of stupidity?????
Are you wanting to get caught for some reason?
Are you looking for a way out?
There is some reason you keep doing these things.
And the next time you have a "threesome", make sure he's clean...inside and out.
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