Time for a change Top And Bottom

[NorthLondonLad]

I was thinking that it was time that we changed the terms Top/Bottom Active/Passive Dom/Sub

The language is so geared up towards make one a "champion" and the other a "loser" - i mean you can get much lower that Bottom! You can also be a passive top - or a really active bottom for instance.

To be honest there's nothing passive about taking a cock up your ass.

So thoughts guys - can we ever change our lexicon when it comes to sexual roles in the gay community?

[SolemnBoy]

Wait, there's such a thing as a passive top? What, the guy just lies down calmly while the bottom does all the work? o.O

[NorthLondonLad]

yes, if the giver guy is laying down and the taker is on top, then you could argue that the bottom is doing the work - or riding it and the top could just lay there.

Also it doesn't have to actually be about the motion or action either - it could be the attitude also - because a bottom guy could really be driving the whole experience - that definitely doesn't make him passive...

[megumidesu]

Wait, there's such a thing as a passive top? What, the guy just lies down calmly while the bottom does all the work? o.O

yes ...

lol

[Woollyhats]

Wait, there's such a thing as a passive top? What, the guy just lies down calmly while the bottom does all the work? o.O

Yes, actually. I could show you a video but it's down right disgusting, and I'd probably get banned.

[SolemnBoy]

Yes, actually. I could show you a video but it's down right disgusting, and I'd probably get banned.

HAH. No thanks. Sounds almost kind of amusing though. Amusing and disturbing.

[Woollyhats]

OP,

I just don't really use the words myself, as they aren't important to me. I have sexual fantasies about either or, but even then, the reason I don't care is for a completely different reason. In my personal life, I want to marry someone, and I'm so so so lucky that it's possible in my country. I don't want to have sex with a top or a bottom, I want to fall in love with someone, and I don't care what they are.

That's just the way I look at it. I know it doesn't help you with your opening question much... but if you don't like the terms, why not stop using them???

[NorthLondonLad]

I just find the choice of words for those who take - are within our community - belittling - or maybe thats just me?

[Undreamt]

Its convenient descriptive language that is simple to understand. Why over complicate things?

I don't want to use a translator every time I'm talking to someone about their sexual preference.

"So you're a running fielder who stands out field? Well I guess I'm a walking pitcher who plays the bases, I think that makes us compatible, wanna hook up?"

[dvdbwn]

and some that don't even engage in anal sex... or "sides"

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