Boyfriend coming home from deployment

[BatsTDK]

Super excited that my boyfriend is coming home from deployment... thought this day would never come but it's less than a week away.

I'm trying to think of something special to do for him when he gets home. I've been reading online and I've pretty much heard from everyone that I just basically need to let him decompress and unwind from being away for so long.

Has anyone been though a homecoming before? This is my first time. Everyone online writes from a military wife-to-military husband perspective, so just curious to see if you guys had any specific suggestions. My brain is stumped for creative ideas

[Counselor]

I would rent movies and buy some beer, cook dinner, and cry about how happy I am to see him, while avoiding the topic of how lucky you both are. Give him a couple days to settle and then have a night out.


^Entirely my own opinion, I don't know how your relationship dynamics function.

[BatsTDK]

Not bad advice at all though. Have to been through this before?

[Counselor]

Not bad advice at all though. Have to been through this before?

Nope. But I know if I was in your shoes, I would want to give him opportunity to relax, settle, and enjoy his time with you. In his shoes, I would greatly appreciate the gesture. Deployment is rough on a person, and can change them. The reminder of the comforts of his relationship and home also give both of you time to readapt to being together again.

[Lilitu]

Assuming coming home from deployment is like any other coming home from a long journey away, I would definitely just give a good 4 days of utter relaxation for him.
The best advice I can give (though I can't say I'm the best person to be receiving advice from for this matter) is, whatever you do, make it about home, as intimate as possible, so that it feels like fitting back into routine rather than going from a big busy period of army deployment to another big event or something at home. And if he says he doesn't know what he wants to do, then that means relax at home.

[Counselor]

Assuming coming home from deployment is like any other coming home from a long journey away, I would definitely just give a good 4 days of utter relaxation for him.
The best advice I can give (though I can't say I'm the best person to be receiving advice from for this matter) is, whatever you do, make it about home, as intimate as possible, so that it feels like fitting back into routine rather than going from a big busy period of army deployment to another big event or something at home. And if he says he doesn't know what he wants to do, then that means relax at home.

At times you can be a complete goof, but this is applause-worthy! Well-observed, Lilly!

*obnoxious clapping*

[BatsTDK]

He's actually Navy... But I still appreciate the advice. He's nervous about reconnecting, and I'm worried he might have high expectations set that I may not meet... But perhaps that's a separate topic of discussion.

[Counselor]

No reason not to discuss it here.

What brought you two together? It might be nice to revisit the good things that you did before.

[BatsTDK]

Well... In all honesty... I guess technically A4A brought us together but in all seriousness, he likes younger, I like older. I thought he was so handsome from the moment we started chatting. We both get along very well and have very good open communication about our feelings.

I guess I'm just worried we'll be in the "honeymoon" phase for a bit once he arrives home, but then the novelty will wear off and he'll become bored/restless.

[Counselor]

First Google result for A4A: Airlines for America.

Fifth result: Adam4Adam

Gotcha.


Well, take it easy at first, and see how long until boredom sets in and then branch into shared interests, like activity OUTside the house.

Edit: After he's settled, please tell him welcome home and thank you!