Gay Christian

[Tyler]

High Tyler, (my name as well) I honestly don't have much to say that others haven't buy to simply say...

I was in your shoes about 2 years ago, up until then I had dated nothing but women, and the only sexual relationship I allowed myself to even consider was with women, that being said I knew for a long while I was attracted to men, more so than women. I was very big into church, even preached a lesson or two to the youth groups and shared some struggles I'd been through. It wasn't until some new members to my church showed up, a lesbian couple, that I started to question what I had been taught. The church didn't try and change them, didn't condemn them, just loved them, I asked my pastor about it (all while keeping my sexuality a secret) and he surprised me by simply saying sin is sin, no one is greater than the other and love is love, we ended up having a long discussion that changed me in a lot of ways, he stated he didn't feel it was a sin, and that if God is truly love who is he to judge who's allowed to love who.

All this time I'd spent years feeling alone I decided to change how I pray, instead of asking for the women that would make me whole I started asking for the person, shortly after I met my boyfriend, turned out he was praying the same and is a very strong Christian so we mesh well together. The love we share is amazing and strong, we work together, never fight, and take care of each other, does that sound like I'm wrong or soothing that wasn't meant to be? He helped me through one of the lowest points in my life and I truly don't know if I'd still be here if not for him, before I was full of self loathing and ashamed of my attraction to men so much so I tried to change it and force it out if me, now I know who I am and have started taking steps to actually coming out to my family, a tough one because they do not believe gay is ok or that we should be allowed to be married.

I guess my only advise is don't give up God doesn't want you unhappy

I will being doing what you do did. Praying. If it is ok with God it will happen, if not it won't.

[pellaz]

the OP is leading us on. stupid post.

[Tyler]

What??????

[Woollyhats]

What??????

OP --- "Original Poster" (person who posted first, that's you.).

That means Pellaz is saying, "You are leading us on" Tyler, or in other words, you aren't making any new opinions at this time, you aren't really considering the things people are saying to you at this time, because you're not exactly ready for that. You are praying, but not entirely engaging in the things everyone has said to you, for whatever reason. Perhaps you just aren't ready to do that right now.

I think for now you probably need some time to think yourself over everything. Learn about the suspected biological causes of homosexuality, come to terms with your sexuality and faith (Bowyn Arrow seems to post wonderful things in that regard, try talking to him), and you just need time. Not time to just sit and repress yourself, but time to figure everything out in your head.

You have things inside of you that are conflicting right now, and I can see it in your posts. We can't reach in and fix that for you. Hell, I probably wouldn't know how, there are things inside me that are in a state of conflict myself. We can, however, help. We can be there for your questions, but you have to be brave enough to over come your cognitive dissonance, which is very much what is going on with you.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance

If you'd like, I'll post you some resources that helped me when I thought there was something wrong with my sexuality as well. I'll never tell you what to think though, it's important that you do that for yourself. And I know you can, you're in university, and so you're obviously a smart cookie.

[Tyler]

I would like the resources.

[dfiant]

I would like the resources.

You want other people to do the hard work for you?

You know what? sometimes you just have to do things for yourself. You have many many good people offering you good advice, so get off your arse and do something about yourself.

Lets start by throw human beings interpretation (Misinterpretation) of God away (AKA THE BIBLE) and find the God within yourself and make decisions for yourself. Do you think God gave you your own fucking brain so that you could entirely depend on him to make decisions for you?

I have no problem with religion, but what I do have a problem it useless and dumb RIGID people...you ask for our help but because no one has said what you want to hear you have ignored and dismissed every single one of us.

Bloody hell, hid behind the bible and your life is going to be a big pile of shit. Use that brain that you have been blessed with and you might just find some happiness and the TRUTH.

[Tyler]

Well, I have done a lot of research. I just figured that maybe you guys had resources that I haven"t seen yet. Also all the research I have done has pointed me back to the same thing. That it is only a sin to act on it.

[dfiant]

Well, I have done a lot of research. I just figured that maybe you guys had resources that I haven"t seen yet. Also all the research I have done has pointed me back to the same thing. That it is only a sin to act on it.

says God?
Says the Bible (Man's interpretation of what God thought and said, which is as believable as an Elvis biography written after his death)?

[Tyler]

I believe that yes the bible was written by man, but man was inspired by God prior to writing it.

[pauluk]

What the above posts are saying is the bible is not all be all. Anybody could write a bible. What makes that person right about these things? If i wrote the bible would you trust what i written in there? You have to be yourself. Live your life.