darkenedshadow Wrote:I could not do things in my life and be fully happy, without knowing he was there with me somehow. Perhaps I feel inferior to others and that is why I needed a relationship to validate my sense of self. I think that has part to do with it.
Unfortunately this is the new part of human nature in this technologically driven world we are in.
Even by the age of 5 we learn how to use technology. More specifically, the TV. Its our friend, its our babysitter, parents use it to "shut the kids up". Ive seen 10 year olds and under, walking around with their own cell phones, pagers, palm pilots, or whatever is popular at the time. Parents pop out kids, and cant be bothered to raise them as humans. These kids are raised as extensions of technology. So when we grow up, we have no idea how to communicate with other humans, especially in the forms of friendship, relationships, and love.
So, keeping that in mind....when a person starts "coming of age" and starts developing feelings, they usually latch onto the first "nice" person that comes along, simply because all these feelings are being misread and misinterpreted by both people. And if the other person seems to be willing to go along, for whatever reason they may have, you feel you have fallen in love.....but its infatuation, not love. But we dont know the difference, because technology never taught us the difference.
Technology teaches us anger, aggression, stupidity, lethargy, and uncaring/unfeeling ways...but thats about it. When we start developing other emotional states and other feelings, we usually let them "fall where they may", which usually gets us into some bad situations.
This is why I tell people they need to learn who they are, what they want, how they work (as a human being), and what it is in life they are looking for...before they engage in any kind of relationship. Friendship or something more serious.
Just one of the many reasons young people "have it rough"...simply because they were raised by technology and not human beings.
Hope that makes sense.
And this ends my lecture for today.
Glad you had a nice day out with yourself!!!