Oh my! His penis was uncommonly LARGE!

[KawaiiKitty]

OKAY...NOW I think I am starting to see what's up with you! You were cheated on at some point, right? Which must have been the fault of the gay community because if we all just acted more mainstream that wouldn't have happened.
News Flash: The only person at fault if you couldn't keep your man is: You.

Not really...take a look at the very FIRST line of his post...

Ok. I am posting this anomymously because I was very ver y bad last night and did things that I really ought not have.

He knew what he did was wrong and he wanted to conceal it. He knew it was cheating when he did it. If he didnt think he was "very very bad last night" and "did things that I really ought not have" then why all the hiding and posting anonymously and more importantly keeping it from his bf until he was forced to tell him. No our definitions are not much different from each other. The difference is Im willing to call it what it is and he and other people that support him won't.

[KawaiiKitty]

OKAY...NOW I think I am starting to see what's up with you! You were cheated on at some point, right? Which must have been the fault of the gay community because if we all just acted more mainstream that wouldn't have happened.
News Flash: The only person at fault if you couldn't keep your man is: You.

oh so Im allowed to have an opinion but I just cant say it? LOL thats oh so much better!

[ardus]

And just so you all know: My husband reads GaySpeak, so I told him everything before he had to read it on his own.
He isn't upset in the least (in fact Alan came over and had a late supper and watched a movie with us last night. My husband says he knows I am a natural flirt and really he doesn't see why I felt the need to tell him about it. Of course I won't be jumping to post anything else of that nature here on the forum anytime in the future....

Not really...take a look at the very FIRST line of his post...

Ok. I am posting this anomymously because I was very ver y bad last night and did things that I really ought not have.

He knew what he did was wrong and he wanted to conceal it. He knew it was cheating when he did it. If he didnt think he was "very very bad last night" and "did things that I really ought not have" then why all the hiding and posting anonymously and more importantly keeping it from his bf until he was forced to tell him. No our definitions are not much different from each other. The difference is Im willing to call it what it is and he and other people that support him won't.

I don't think you have a very realistic perspective on life my friend. But you know what, you get to be unrealistic, that's your right. My objection to your argument and your attitude comes from you trying to project your rules onto somebody else.

It seems clear to me, that he and his partner have discussed what happened, and in the context of their life and their relationship they worked it out.

What I don't understand is why you can't let it out of your teeth.

Richard

[KawaiiKitty]

I don't think you have a very realistic perspective on life my friend. But you know what, you get to be unrealistic, that's your right. My objection to your argument and your attitude comes from you trying to project your rules onto somebody else.

It seems clear to me, that he and his partner have discussed what happened, and in the context of their life and their relationship they worked it out.

What I don't understand is why you can't let it out of your teeth.

Richard

bcs honestly I really cant believe that someone would be fine and dandy after their partner told them that they have cheated on them.

[ardus]

bcs honestly I really cant believe that someone would be fine and dandy after their partner told them that they have cheated on them.

That's you, not him, not his partner, not everybody, the thing that made me ping on your posts was not the content, it's the judgemental way you are approaching it.

Richard

[MisterTinkles]

Come on 11 inches of dick - how often does one get to see something like THAT?

Hell I most likely would have thrown all of my prudish notions aside to cop a feel.... Just for the sheer curiosity of that monster.:tongue:

Filthy......

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Filthy......

I mean honestly what more can one do with something that large? Other than throw it over your shoulder and burp it?

[KawaiiKitty]

That's you, not him, not his partner, not everybody, the thing that made me ping on your posts was not the content, it's the judgemental way you are approaching it.

Richard

Everyone is judgemental when they have opinions on something, how else do you form opinions other than judging something? lol He can do what he likes but when I smell bullshit I call bullshit.

[MisterTinkles]

I mean honestly what more can one do with something that large? Other than throw it over your shoulder and burp it?

Im not a size queen by any means.
But I was with this guy a few times, we finally got nekkid together and what he had almost reached his kneecaps! Ive never seen a skinny, white man with something that size....well, I lie....back in high school there was this tall, skinny guy...but I covered that in a different thread.

Anyway, it wasnt "all that". I prefer something I can fit down my throat....not something that will come out the other end.

[Beaux]

This I really agree with.. though I think in the end it all comes down to what's really important to the people in the relationship.

For me, honesty is #1. I've been lied to all my life (mainly by family, won't go into that).. but if someone lies to me, it hurts far worse than coming out and being honest about something. At the same time, Monogamy is also incredibly important to me, so I would absolutely refuse to be in any other sort of relationship.

Sure, I believe in second chances.. but it all depends on the history of the relationship, what happened, etc..

People often cheat for a reason, and it's usually more than "I just got too drunk"

It seems though that the OP here has a bit of a different type of relationship than I would be willing to engage in. In my view I think it's ridiculous to say that jerking off another guy isn't cheating.. but to each their own. Like I said, it all comes down to the people in the relationship and what they choose to accept. Everyone has their own expectations.

-edit

I didn't read the 3rd page until now, so it seems I completely skipped over the hostility.. but whatever, my reply still states my opinion on the issue :p. Glad to hear you came clean though, and everything is well..

And I do appreciate your reply, or I appreciate it as much as I can considering I had intended this thread to be anonymous. I agree whole heartedly that each relationship is different.

I realize that many of the posters here today are not people who really know my story at all; a lot if you guys and gals are relatively new. Nor am I a frequent poster, so a lot of y'all really don't know anything about me.
My husband and I met in 1994 and spent the better part of 5+ years together before I left him. He had a problem keeping his dock in his pants and he was the first guy I had sex with since I decided I was gay and divorced my wife.
Almost nine years later his boyfriend died and we started dating again. I know more about cheating and it's affects on marriage than most people.
Anyone who knows me, knows I am frighteningly honest. I have never felt the need to lie to my husband. Now, I know so,e people scream the "Lying by omission is still a lie!" line, but I get so sick of that kind of assumption. Does ANYONE here think for a second that my husband didn't ASK me where I had been the night this all occured when I made him breakfast and packed his lunch at 6:30 am the next morning???
I said, "Out with Alan. We got Pissed and rode scooters and..oh...you DON'T want to know! HA!" I them proceeded to kiss him on the cheek and he went to work (while I went back to bed).
Finally, I also realize that you don't know "Alan". He is my best friend. He has had a string of crazy but beautiful girlfriends (and now I know why!!!) but has ALWAYS been a true and genuine friend. I don't believe for a second that he wants to "be" with me; neither do I have the slightest desire to "be" with him. Yet we always have the best of times when we hang out. We really connect and understand each other, which is something I value greatly.
What I did that night with Alan was, to me, very reminiscent of some of the "horse play" I participated in when I was around twelve or fourteen: exciting, secretive, and novel.
If you wish to condem me for Cheating and your definition of Cheating is that kind of "horse play", then by all means-applaude your own moral superiority. I on the other hand am a bit more forgiving of myself. In my world, it just isn't sex if no one has an orgasam. In fact, cheating and having sex are not mutually dependent when one factors in intamacy, and MOST importantly-- I only have to please two people in my life and I don't have to post on this forum to get the message to either one of them.
Beaux