07-26-2013, 07:06 PM
Following my breakup with my ex boyfriend in June I've been going on dates. Yeah I know some may say its a bit too early and all but it has been a full month and they are just dates with no contact of any sort.
So anyway, I've been on two dates with two people. One of them is this Brazilian guy in London (considering my ex was Lithuanian it seems I am getting a bit of attention from migrants!) and the second one was with this camp guy who was actually quite nice.
The Brazilian guy seemed interested in me but I felt uncomfortable when he tried to touch my hand in public. I mean that's a little inappropriate and it makes me uncomfortable. Plus he keeps calling me ''sweetheart'' even though he barely knows me and is now going on about how he can't find a job, he has no money, he is stuck and does not know what to do etc. I message him and half the time he doesn't bother to reply or even say hi.
I am sceptical about him. I am wondering if he's after money or even a visa. I keep having visions that he's going to ask me to marry him or for a civil partnership or something. My answer will be a firm NO to that! If he asks me for money its the same. I barely have enough to feed and look after myself let alone a high maintenance fake lover/admirer. I think he has ulterior motives.
The other guy (the camp British-Irish dude) was actually really nice and seems okay. I thought the date went well but I've heard not much from him so I assume he's not into me so much.
All in all its disappointing. Still at least the second guy isn't acting all weird.
Has anyone else had similar problems?
I forgot to mention that the first guy's English wasn't so great which made it harder to communicate.
So anyway, I've been on two dates with two people. One of them is this Brazilian guy in London (considering my ex was Lithuanian it seems I am getting a bit of attention from migrants!) and the second one was with this camp guy who was actually quite nice.
The Brazilian guy seemed interested in me but I felt uncomfortable when he tried to touch my hand in public. I mean that's a little inappropriate and it makes me uncomfortable. Plus he keeps calling me ''sweetheart'' even though he barely knows me and is now going on about how he can't find a job, he has no money, he is stuck and does not know what to do etc. I message him and half the time he doesn't bother to reply or even say hi.
I am sceptical about him. I am wondering if he's after money or even a visa. I keep having visions that he's going to ask me to marry him or for a civil partnership or something. My answer will be a firm NO to that! If he asks me for money its the same. I barely have enough to feed and look after myself let alone a high maintenance fake lover/admirer. I think he has ulterior motives.
The other guy (the camp British-Irish dude) was actually really nice and seems okay. I thought the date went well but I've heard not much from him so I assume he's not into me so much.
All in all its disappointing. Still at least the second guy isn't acting all weird.
Has anyone else had similar problems?
I forgot to mention that the first guy's English wasn't so great which made it harder to communicate.