07-26-2013, 11:15 PM
So its been three months since I ended a nine year relationship with the guy I was supposed to marry. Its been a long...lonely three months. I know very well that I am no where near ready to date again, and won't be for awhile. Anyway I got asked out. I told the guy my situation and he was cool and asked if maybe we could have lunch as friends. I thought about it and thought why not? So I made it clear that this was a just friends deal by literally saying "I'm not ready to date but we could be friends"
I thought that was clear anyway.
So I get dressed and he picks me up for a simple lunch. At first its all cool, we talk about random crap until he pulls up at an extremely fancy restaurant. To me it seemed way to fancy for a just friends first lunch but whatever. The problem really starts inside when he decides to grab my hand and lead me to the table when we are shown in. He spends lunch asking seriously personal questions, occasionally making an attempt to touch me and being more than a little flirty. He spends over $100 on lunch and won't let me pay. On the way out I kept my distance to save myself from any further grabbing. He walked me to my front door when we got back.
It irritated me. Maybe I'm just an asshole but he acted like we were a couple and now I totally don't want to see him again. Am I just being an ass or what?
I thought that was clear anyway.
So I get dressed and he picks me up for a simple lunch. At first its all cool, we talk about random crap until he pulls up at an extremely fancy restaurant. To me it seemed way to fancy for a just friends first lunch but whatever. The problem really starts inside when he decides to grab my hand and lead me to the table when we are shown in. He spends lunch asking seriously personal questions, occasionally making an attempt to touch me and being more than a little flirty. He spends over $100 on lunch and won't let me pay. On the way out I kept my distance to save myself from any further grabbing. He walked me to my front door when we got back.
It irritated me. Maybe I'm just an asshole but he acted like we were a couple and now I totally don't want to see him again. Am I just being an ass or what?