07-27-2013, 02:29 PM
I'm a 42 year old white British gay guy. I am attracted to young guys 18-30
Now it is not unusual for older guys like myself to find younger guys attractive, but most older guys are also attracted to their own age. I am not. Indeed I am repulsed by any guys of my own age, unless they are asian or black or anything non-white.
My question is does this indicate I have a psychological problem? Should I have counselling or therapy etc.
At the moment I am not getting much sex - indeed the only sex and intimacy I am getting are from non white guys, of which there are quite a lot in London. But I have moved out of London now, and there are not many where I have moved to.
What should I do to try to resolve this problem? I see a number of options:
1. Try to get myself to find attractive guys of my own age.
2. Try to dress better, get fitter etc and try to attract young guys directly without paying for it - I think this IS possible, but is, I suspect, quite difficult.
3. Pay for sex with younger guys - the "Rent boy" option.
Which of these do you think I should do?
I don't know why I don't fancy guys of my own age. I just look at them and think - ewwww that's a man!
I also think that perhaps when I was young myself, guys of that age perved over me (I think I was a good looking twink then), and I felt violated by it. I never went with an older man. In fact I never went with anyone because when I was young I was a straight guy - I only fancied women. Not that I got any mind because I was too shy. But now I've found homosexuality in the last 10 years I say f*ck women, I can have a man.
Around 10 years ago there were lots of chinese guys - they were soooo sexy. I used to have fun with quite a lot of them in their late 20's and early 30's and it was a really sexy time. But they have gone from London to some extent, and as I said I have left London, so I'm in the crap a bit.
Sorry to bang on a bit, but I'm feeling really broody surrounded by lots of hot young guys, yet I feel like a pervert trying to chat them up and get into their underpants etc.
Now it is not unusual for older guys like myself to find younger guys attractive, but most older guys are also attracted to their own age. I am not. Indeed I am repulsed by any guys of my own age, unless they are asian or black or anything non-white.
My question is does this indicate I have a psychological problem? Should I have counselling or therapy etc.
At the moment I am not getting much sex - indeed the only sex and intimacy I am getting are from non white guys, of which there are quite a lot in London. But I have moved out of London now, and there are not many where I have moved to.
What should I do to try to resolve this problem? I see a number of options:
1. Try to get myself to find attractive guys of my own age.
2. Try to dress better, get fitter etc and try to attract young guys directly without paying for it - I think this IS possible, but is, I suspect, quite difficult.
3. Pay for sex with younger guys - the "Rent boy" option.
Which of these do you think I should do?
I don't know why I don't fancy guys of my own age. I just look at them and think - ewwww that's a man!
I also think that perhaps when I was young myself, guys of that age perved over me (I think I was a good looking twink then), and I felt violated by it. I never went with an older man. In fact I never went with anyone because when I was young I was a straight guy - I only fancied women. Not that I got any mind because I was too shy. But now I've found homosexuality in the last 10 years I say f*ck women, I can have a man.
Around 10 years ago there were lots of chinese guys - they were soooo sexy. I used to have fun with quite a lot of them in their late 20's and early 30's and it was a really sexy time. But they have gone from London to some extent, and as I said I have left London, so I'm in the crap a bit.
Sorry to bang on a bit, but I'm feeling really broody surrounded by lots of hot young guys, yet I feel like a pervert trying to chat them up and get into their underpants etc.