07-30-2013, 08:31 PM
I'll try to be short. I'm a gay man and I had a boyfriend. We were together for 5 years. I really loved him, but in the last year our relationships somehow became very tense, we were arguing often. Because of that and some other reasons I broke up with him. I think it was better for both of us.
But the thing is that my ex doesn't leave me alone. We have many mutual friends so unfortunately we happen to meet each other quite often. I would like to start relationships with some other guy, but I just can't do it, because my ex is interfering all the time. As he notices I'm starting to get on well with some guy, he starts to tell this guy all the bad things about me. Some of them are true, some are not. He says that he’s my ex, that I’m a horrible person and stuff like that. He just scares away all my potential boyfriends. They believe him more because they know he knows me better than they do. Once he told that I have HIV, which is not true. Of course, the guy ran away from me. I’ve even stopped to attend parties that our friends are making, because I can’t enjoy them at all because of him. He always flirts and makes out with guys right in front of me. Wherever I go, he’s there as well.
I've asked him why is he doing it. He was like " I just don't want other people to get involved with an idiot like you". Actually usually I don't talk with him at all, it is always him who comes up to me and starts talking with me. All the time he seems angry and frustrated by me.
Why does he have to mess with my life? I can understand that he probably hates me now, but people do break up, it’s nothing unusual. However it doesn't give him any rights to treat me like that. I wish him all the best, but why can't he just go somewhere, live his life and let me live mine? It really pisses me off.
But the thing is that my ex doesn't leave me alone. We have many mutual friends so unfortunately we happen to meet each other quite often. I would like to start relationships with some other guy, but I just can't do it, because my ex is interfering all the time. As he notices I'm starting to get on well with some guy, he starts to tell this guy all the bad things about me. Some of them are true, some are not. He says that he’s my ex, that I’m a horrible person and stuff like that. He just scares away all my potential boyfriends. They believe him more because they know he knows me better than they do. Once he told that I have HIV, which is not true. Of course, the guy ran away from me. I’ve even stopped to attend parties that our friends are making, because I can’t enjoy them at all because of him. He always flirts and makes out with guys right in front of me. Wherever I go, he’s there as well.
I've asked him why is he doing it. He was like " I just don't want other people to get involved with an idiot like you". Actually usually I don't talk with him at all, it is always him who comes up to me and starts talking with me. All the time he seems angry and frustrated by me.
Why does he have to mess with my life? I can understand that he probably hates me now, but people do break up, it’s nothing unusual. However it doesn't give him any rights to treat me like that. I wish him all the best, but why can't he just go somewhere, live his life and let me live mine? It really pisses me off.