Advice about a guy...
08-26-2013, 03:13 AM
So I feel like I know what everyone's answer will be but I guess part of me is holding out that someone thinks it might be something and the other part wants to have a universal answer. So here goes...
There's this guy I work with who I've slowly developed a minor crush on ever since he started working in my office about 5+ months ago. At first, there was nothing because I honestly don't find him physically attractive whatsoever. However, as I sort of got to know him, I really started to like his personality. At first he thought I was straight but once he found out I was gay, he still treated me the same. The only difference was that he would make gay jokes but it's not all the time. And everyone in my office tends to make fun of each other all the time. It's what makes us all get along so well. I noticed that he tends to bother me and pick on me more than he does with anyone else. My coworkers noticed it as well, even saying maybe there's a reason for it, but at the same time I'm unsure of whether they were just saying that just for the hell of it or if they really believed it. And besides, he does have a girlfriend and he does say he is straight. And I know that should be my answer right there but I guess I'm being way too hopeful. So anyway, he will bother me the most, mess up things at my desk and mostly my desk only, he sometimes gets extremely close to me when talking to me and he never has a problem when I make sexual jokes towards him. He has also made comments on my car, telling me how he doesn't like it and how I should get a knew one... I usually do it to try to make him feel uncomfortable but he never gets uncomfortable. Instead, he usually just seems to get quiet. Then there was a party that my coworker had that I was looking forward to because I figured we could be a bit more laid back and since there would be drinks involved, the atmosphere would be even more laid back. Unfortunately, he brought his girlfriend so he was with her most of the night. But before I got there, he text me asking me where I was, told me I looked weird in regular clothes (this was the first time he's seen me outside of work) and constantly told me to go dance because his girlfriend kept telling him she wanted to dance. At one point, he told me to go dance again and when I said no, he said he would loan me his girlfriend. When I said no again, he asked if I wanted him to dance with me and once again, I said no. Then I text him accidentally on purpose (very immature, I know, but I get stupid sometimes when drinking) saying that he sucked and he assumed I said that because he had left before I did. So basically what I want to know is... am I looking to much into this? Should I stop looking for something that isn't there?
There's this guy I work with who I've slowly developed a minor crush on ever since he started working in my office about 5+ months ago. At first, there was nothing because I honestly don't find him physically attractive whatsoever. However, as I sort of got to know him, I really started to like his personality. At first he thought I was straight but once he found out I was gay, he still treated me the same. The only difference was that he would make gay jokes but it's not all the time. And everyone in my office tends to make fun of each other all the time. It's what makes us all get along so well. I noticed that he tends to bother me and pick on me more than he does with anyone else. My coworkers noticed it as well, even saying maybe there's a reason for it, but at the same time I'm unsure of whether they were just saying that just for the hell of it or if they really believed it. And besides, he does have a girlfriend and he does say he is straight. And I know that should be my answer right there but I guess I'm being way too hopeful. So anyway, he will bother me the most, mess up things at my desk and mostly my desk only, he sometimes gets extremely close to me when talking to me and he never has a problem when I make sexual jokes towards him. He has also made comments on my car, telling me how he doesn't like it and how I should get a knew one... I usually do it to try to make him feel uncomfortable but he never gets uncomfortable. Instead, he usually just seems to get quiet. Then there was a party that my coworker had that I was looking forward to because I figured we could be a bit more laid back and since there would be drinks involved, the atmosphere would be even more laid back. Unfortunately, he brought his girlfriend so he was with her most of the night. But before I got there, he text me asking me where I was, told me I looked weird in regular clothes (this was the first time he's seen me outside of work) and constantly told me to go dance because his girlfriend kept telling him she wanted to dance. At one point, he told me to go dance again and when I said no, he said he would loan me his girlfriend. When I said no again, he asked if I wanted him to dance with me and once again, I said no. Then I text him accidentally on purpose (very immature, I know, but I get stupid sometimes when drinking) saying that he sucked and he assumed I said that because he had left before I did. So basically what I want to know is... am I looking to much into this? Should I stop looking for something that isn't there?
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