09-03-2013, 08:53 PM
Hi,
I need some advice. I've been in a monogamous relationship with a man that I love very much for over a year now. There's something that I did that I regret, and I feel like if he finds out it could end the relationship. While I have never touched anyone while we've been together, I went to a gay bathhouse -once- to work out once during the first month of our relationship. Let me be clear - that's ALL I did - use the facilities gym equipment, which many people do. But the reason I went to a gay gym is because I have a thing for checking people out in the shower, and you can do that with impunity at a bathhouse.
I have one friend that knows I did this, and he is a mutual friend of my boyfriends, although has been friends with me for longer. I am terrified that he will tell him, and that my boyfriend wont believe that I only went there to work out, and did not touch anyone... should I just tell my boyfriend that I went once when our relationship first began, and that I'd rather be honest with him, or just not tell him at all?
Bottom line is I'd NEVER cheat on him or touch anyone else... this was just a one time stupid decision to go to a place that I should have never been while in a relationship. I learned my lesson and did not go back.
Any advice would help.
Thanks
I need some advice. I've been in a monogamous relationship with a man that I love very much for over a year now. There's something that I did that I regret, and I feel like if he finds out it could end the relationship. While I have never touched anyone while we've been together, I went to a gay bathhouse -once- to work out once during the first month of our relationship. Let me be clear - that's ALL I did - use the facilities gym equipment, which many people do. But the reason I went to a gay gym is because I have a thing for checking people out in the shower, and you can do that with impunity at a bathhouse.
I have one friend that knows I did this, and he is a mutual friend of my boyfriends, although has been friends with me for longer. I am terrified that he will tell him, and that my boyfriend wont believe that I only went there to work out, and did not touch anyone... should I just tell my boyfriend that I went once when our relationship first began, and that I'd rather be honest with him, or just not tell him at all?
Bottom line is I'd NEVER cheat on him or touch anyone else... this was just a one time stupid decision to go to a place that I should have never been while in a relationship. I learned my lesson and did not go back.
Any advice would help.
Thanks