10-18-2013, 03:24 AM
Dillon1986 Wrote:Finding a job in Ohio will be difficult. It's still legal to be fired for being gay. I'm definitely getting out of here eventually.
Don't be so down on a place. I left, came back, left again, and eventually found my way back. I've been all over this country and to a few others besides. My discoveries included the fact that the grass is not really greener, and there's something to be said for having childhood friends and family close at hand. As you get older those things can mean a bit more than they do in your 20's.
You need to be comfortable being yourself, wherever you end up. And understand that some of the most confident looking people in the world aren't really all that confident, they've just stopped caring whether you like them or not so they're free to be themselves without fear of rejection. If you can be that self contained, it's entirely possible that you will find social situations a lot easier to manage. Just don't sweat it. Be you, talk about what interests you, and by doing so you will eventually find like minded people.
Bars, they suck. There's a pretty good consensus on that among guys I think. The music is too loud for conversation, you spend a lot of money, and everybody seems to leave disappointed. Straight people have the same bad luck with bars. They're bars, right? Which means they're in the business of selling alcohol, not creating couples. Everything in a bar is designed to try and keep you drinking.
Luckily there's a lot more to social life than bars. You have to get creative sometimes to find other things to do and places to go to meet people, but when you do then the people you meet have also had to try a little harder, which means they're probably smarter and more genuine anyway.