Would it be easier..?

[justbry87]

Thanks for the varying replies to this, I am glad[?] that I'm not
the only one who's have thought this before.

And someone mentioned that easier doesn't always means better, and
that made me pause and think.

Thinking about the stuff that I've done, all the friends and memories I've
made in the past. I don't think I would trade those for the world.

My life could've been possibly 'easier'. I wouldn't have dropped out
of High School, I could've gone to real college and did all the things in
my class would've.

..but I don't think my life would've been colorful. I wouldn't have learned
the lessons that I know now that makes me into the person I am today.

:takes-a-deep-breath:

Thanks everyone~ I'm glad this place is here <3

[MisterTinkles]

It doesnt matter, the bullies, morons, players, and users/abusers of the world will ALWAYS find a reason to treat you like shit, call you names, lie to you, steal from you, and play you like harp from hell.

Other people get the SAME treatment for being blond, fat, too skinny, a "nerd", a "geek", having braces, being Jewish, or whatever.

Haters gonna find a reason to hate you and torment you. This includes parents, relatives, and so-called friends.

"Gay" has nothing to do with it. Its just another reason for some brain dead, useless piece of human garbage to torment someone else, just so they think they are a better person for it.

[DanK]

And then I read this... *sigh* This kind of opinions make me sad and disappointed, because it's not the only one and basically, to me this once again sounds like "eww women".

Yeah I almost agree........

I really don't know what does being gay or straight have to do with hiking or other "manly" activities or not, I really didn't understand DanK's comment..

I think you've misunderstood my comment to some extent.
To Frosty, When I said "women" in my post, I didn't refer to "all the women in the world". That's why I used adjectives of quantity (most, many) in my post. I know that women can survive without men. I just think that many (not all) women rely on men.

To Bowyn, you seem to take my definition of "equality" to the extreme. And I didn't mean any of that you mentioned in your post. And I think that women can be stay-at home moms and be equal. I didn't say that everyone (man and woman) has to do the same job or have the same responsibility. What I mean is that when some women request men to do something they're perfectly capable of doing it but they won't do it themselves for some reason I don't know and they love to have men doing it for them such as opening a car door, paying for the meal, etc. Again, I'm not saying that "every woman in the world does this".

To southbiochem, I might have stated poorly. What I'm trying to say is that "it's difficult for me to find women who have the same interests as me". That's it. And I said that to support my answer why I would want to be gay if I could choose. I'm not saying that women don't do hiking or do physically-demanding stuffs. It's just my personal life experience and my lifestyle. Many times when I ask my friends to go somewhere or do something, most of my female friends usually (if not always) say "I can't. It's too physically-demanding". Many women are extremely adventurous and are a lot stronger than me. I know that for a fact. Still I find it easier to find guys that have common interest as me more than girls.

I hope that this will make you understand me better. And I hope that I didn't offend anyone too much in my previous post. If you read this post and still think that I'm an obnoxious women-hating person, then I guess I have nothing more to explain.

[Undreamt]

I honestly believe I would be happier if I was straight... Every guy that has shown interest in me, or I have shown interest in, has hurt me in many different ways. I've been used, lied to, dumped for exes, betrayed, and assaulted on the verge of something worse on many occasions... Yet the women that have shown interest in me were genuinely amazing people that I found attractive for their personality, and have moved on to long lasting relationships and are living in a happily ever after state of mind. If I was straight I wouldn't be single most likely, I wouldn't get hurt as much, and I wouldn't be as f***ed up.

It doesn't help that the "gay culture" in my city, and especially for my age group (18-30) is full of backstabbing, hookups, sabotage, and just awful people in general.

Also just to point out that many women feel more at ease with gay guys because they see them as not a threat. If you were straight women would not be as close with you.

My personal experience seems to suggest that while gay guys might find it harder to establish a relationship, the relationships that do form last longer.
Straight people might get partners more easily but they get hurt more often when they break up

[trywait]

not saying im an expert on relationships, but based on past experience, whether u date guys or girls, each relationship is different.

don't ever expect it to be like the last relationship. at the end of the day, we all human beings subject to our emotions.

dating girls is no easier than dating guys...except if you're just looking for sex, it's much easier to get it from a guy

[Rainbowmum]

It's never a choice it's the way you are .
Going with the norm is always easier but do you really want to live a lie?
Be true to yourself.

[arrowsmith]

Here I am , up mto last Friday NEVER enven thought about sucking a DxxK feeling lonely so I went on CL searching for a gf, saw the m4m section so what the hell let me see. this guy posted a pic so I sent a reply. we hooked up, don't know his name only where he lives. got ther he was ready .We got in bed I did it to hime but I shot off before I was done with him.
I can honestly say This ain't for me never again . for all the problem being str* I'll stay that way for the rest of me life. I don't think most "gay" men are happy. You that say you're in love I doubt it you are just stuck in a rut and want out IMHO

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Here I am , up mto last Friday NEVER enven thought about sucking a DxxK feeling lonely so I went on CL searching for a gf, saw the m4m section so what the hell let me see. this guy posted a pic so I sent a reply. we hooked up, don't know his name only where he lives. got ther he was ready .We got in bed I did it to hime but I shot off before I was done with him.
I can honestly say This ain't for me never again . for all the problem being str* I'll stay that way for the rest of me life. I don't think most "gay" men are happy. You that say you're in love I doubt it you are just stuck in a rut and want out IMHO

All humans are unhappy to one degree or another, even the healthiest, richest with everything going for them always long for what is on the other side of the fence.

[Bluelight]

Some days, I wish I were straight. Girls hit on me all the time, I could have found a partner easily by now, but I'm starting to feel more and more like I'm going to be alone forever. Last year this time I had such hope and ambition for my future, everything felt so promising after coming out, but now that's pretty much gone, and I've been stuck in this ditch for longer than I would have imagined or reasonably expected. When my straight friends tell me about their problems, I almost want to smack them and tell them to complain to someone else, but I don't because friends are rare finds.

[driftwood]

I'm starting to feel more and more like I'm going to be alone forever...

Give it a few years - or decades. Us older fellas get amused when you youngsters use words like forever.

When my straight friends tell me about their problems, I almost want to smack them .

Like Bowyn paraphrased "The grass is always greener..." You'd still have problems if you were straight.

But the real reason I'm posting is that for me, being straight is much easier than being gay. That's part of the reason I spent so many years being straight. And now that I'm older, I find it well nigh impossible to attract a man, but not so difficult to meet and attract women. They don't quite "throw themselves" at me like one poster said, but I can still attract them. The thing is though, that even though I can 'choose to be straight' it's not really right. It doesn't feel right. I don't have much trouble being faithful when I'm in a relationship, but I do need both. Since my relationships on the whole tend to be somewhat short, I can alternate. So that's what I intend to do.

But what I said above isn't really true: it's not easier being straight: it's less difficult.