A 3rd Chance?

[jimcrackcorn]

In my opinion, talking dirty & swapping nude pictures on facebook or twitter --is about the same as watching porn on the internet. Where do you draw the line between "cheating" and "sexual entertainment" especially when there is no physical contact involved?

If my man wants to watch porn or flirt with someone on a social media site, I wouldn't be bothered by it. I''d just warn him about taking it to the next level (sexual contact) And,,, I would give him a good tongue lashing if I caught him sending nude pictures of his private parts to some one.

The first few years of a relationship are usually the most difficult. Your still learning about each other and ironing out your differences. There will be some things your boyfriend does that will make you angry enough to pull your hair out (I'm almost bald). Flirting with strangers on social media sites may be one of those "hair pulling" situations that you consider extremely bad, and I wouldn't blame you for being mad, but is it something bad enough to warrant a breakup? Each individuals breaking point is different, so I won't presume to know what works for you and what doesn't. I can only wish you the best and hope things work out for both of you.

Sincerely,
Jim

[philsguy95]

I could word this very intricately, but let's be blunt: dude's a loser. Kick him to the curb.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

I could word this very intricately, but let's be blunt: dude's a loser. Kick him to the curb.

Thats easy to say, but once your in a long term relationship, one that comes with emotional bonds, its not so easy to do.

ObW
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[southbiochem]

In my opinion, talking dirty & swapping nude pictures on facebook or twitter --is about the same as watching porn on the internet. Where do you draw the line between "cheating" and "sexual entertainment" especially when there is no physical contact involved?

watching porn is watching a movie and nothing more, you don't interact with the actors..there's the difference

maybe it's ok even to flirt with someone online...

but to be exchanging sexually oriented pics and messages goes juuuuuuuuust a wee bit beyond flirting *rolls eyes*, and again, it's different than porn in the fact that you're actively interacting with another person...and in way that you shouldn't be doing if your in a relationship..

how long before he goes from exchanging such content to a hook-up in real life?...

[jimcrackcorn]

watching porn is watching a movie and nothing more, you don't interact with the actors..there's the difference

maybe it's ok even to flirt with someone online...

but to be exchanging sexually oriented pics and messages goes juuuuuuuuust a wee bit beyond flirting *rolls eyes*, and again, it's different than porn in the fact that you're actively interacting with another person...and in way that you shouldn't be doing if your in a relationship..

how long before he goes from exchanging such content to a hook-up in real life?...

The OP said his partner did these things on social media because he was horny; which is also why people watch porn (they are horny) . That's where the similarity comes into play. He was seeking sexual gratification thru an internet connection.

No physical touching between two humans happened. What was the boyfriends crime in this situation? At most, all he did was masturbate while thinking or watching someone else thru an internet connection who wasn't his boyfriend. Same thing happens when your horny and watch porn on the internet.

Most young men have high sex drives and are curious and want to experience all there is out there in the gay world.... I would actually give this boyfriend and Attaboy for not going out and having an affair with some stranger in a motel room or in the back seat of a car. He stayed at home and kept it non-physical...

There are many reasons for breaking up a relationship, but this one isn't serious enough to warrant such an action (in my opinion). Their relationship just needs more work, and more time.

Sincerely,
JIm

[Deedee]

Once is enough!
What happened once may not happen again but what happened twice will surely happen again. over and over. Move on and live happily. may not be easy but GS community is here for you :>

[nykos5000]

Don't do it... I think this guy needs to learn to control himself. He obviously saw you had a problem with it the first time so why cause an issue the second the time? If he can't control something so simple in you guy's relationship then what's next?

If I were you, I would break it off and take a break. If after a few weeks to months you can't live without him then see what happens. That way, he'll see you're serious and he can't just do what he wants and you take him back with open arms. Teach him a lesson so that he can learn to control himself. Relationships require you to compromise sometimes and if you have a problem with him flirting online with strangers than he's going to have to learn to not do it just because he has that urge.