Put on the same face your charmander is wearing and ask where your relation...thing is going. Tell him what you want, ask him what he wants. If there's a disconnect between the two, and especially if he just out right refuses to answer, tell him that you've got a life too and you need to let him go completely.
He may make some effort to change if it comes to this, as I suspect Bowyn Arrow has some solid points. But if he doesn't, or if those changes aren't what you want from a relationship, you've still got to move on.
And yes, this does mean you'll have to end the friendship. It's hard to 'just be friends' with someone that you're actively in love with, have had sex with, and have not yet gotten over. This doesn't mean you can't be on good terms though.
Good luck..
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Well guys had a really good talk with him a few hours ago. It went better than I expected. We are still best friends and he understands what I am going through completely with having strong feelings about him. He told me that he does love me, but he is unsure of himself. He hasn't really found himself yet as far as what he would like to pursue in the future(being with a women, or man). He is clearly bi, but what you guys do not know is that he is actually still a virgin when it comes to women. I'm the only person that he has had strong feelings for and it's all new to him. One thing he did tell me was that he didn't want me to wait on him to find out what he wants since it would be unfair for me. Honestly, I'm just happy that he was able to open up to me and not be the emotionless jerk that he usually is. I'd be lying if I told you guys that we are going to break off the sex entirely for now. I mean we both are still single and I've had the best sex with him by far so I don't think that will change. So I guess we will continue this and if I find another guy who I connect with and get into a monogamous relationship then we will stop. Although if that guy never comes around and he becomes honest with himself in the future then I will still be in his life to hear his decision. I know this does sound very one-sided, but maybe I'm just stupidly in love. Only time will tell. Thank you guys for the amazing answers. I appreciate it.
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Maybe he's not comfortable with the fact that he likes guys, whether he's Bi, or a closeted gay.
Right now he seems to need you as a support, he clearly likes you as BF material, but he seems reluctanct to engage in a relationship with you maybe due to this fear of accepting he likes guys, or rather that he likes A guy, i.e. you.
Sit down with him and when you feel it more conmfortable ask him about it, "Are you interesed or would you be interested in a relationship with me?" "Do you like me enough for that?", "Do you want freedom, i.e. hookups?" "Are you afraid to admit you like me/men for real?"
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I have this problem...
