Boyfriend's Blog

[dfiant1]

I don't have a problem with anything

just to be clear.

[driftwood]

There have been other incidents of deception, omission, or partial truths on his part, usually with minor stuff like this. He is very secretive with his cellphone and almost never leaves it unattended... would this bother you?

Big time! This is the main point. For me it would be the deal breaker. I don't want to have someone I can't trust in my home or in my bed.

I'm white, is it immature of me to be bothered by what I consider his obsession with Asian male beauty?

That's entirely up to you. If it were me, I'd share my photo collection. But you have a right to your preferences.

At what point does deception in little things add up to a big problem?

Like Woolyhats said "Immediately." This puts us back to the main point. You need to have a long talk with him. But, if you can't trust him, I don't expect it will do much good.

[Vigilias]

I think you may be a little paranoid and that may come from one or several bad experiences in the past. Your boyfriend's conduct, although not indicative of cheating, could have and may be improved with a little more openness on his part and a little less mistrust on yours.

As for his Rottweiler-like protection of his mobile phone, maybe that will change once he realises he has nothing more to keep from you.

Ultimately, however, notwithstanding that he has a right to his privacy, if you feel you can't trust him then there can be no point being in a relationship with him.

Talk, wait, observe, assess - decide.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

Its clear that you've been hurt emotionally over finding out that he is running a blog, I think we get that.

I would be interested in HOW you found out?

If you went snooping on his PC, then more fool you. He's entitled to his privacy, and now your taken the genie out the bottle, its not going to go back in easily.

On the other hand, if you went searching for "Teenage Asian Boy Bands" on Google, then wytf are you so pissed off?

What you need to decide is whether you love your partner or not, and whether this is an issue you can work through. As you say yourself, he was blogging when you met him, including provocative pictures and you never asked him to stop it. HELLO??......

This isn't an issue, unless you want to make it one.

ObW
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[Marcoroel]

Writing a blog should not be an issue. I am in a monogamous relationship with my man for 7 years now.
We are even married and we love each other every day more. I also write a gay blog, he knows about it, it's just a passion.

[Ryocchi]

Writing a blog should not be an issue. I am in a monogamous relationship with my man for 7 years now.
We are even married and we love each other every day more. I also write a gay blog, he knows about it, it's just a passion.

Those are the magic keywords.

[Ryocchi]

I believe most relationships don't fall apart because of one big thing, it's all the little things that leads to the big fight, there are things I wouldn't have a problem with my boyfriend of he do, like watching porn or maintaining a blog, I would have problems with of he kept it a secret, because if he kept those things a secret I would immediately thought it is because there's something going on that he knows I wouldn't like, like cheating.

Communication is the key, and most often than not things get discovered by chance, you don't need to be a Sherlock Holmes.