been sleeping with friends son

[Joshular]

this is one of those times you throw bricks into the air and catch them in your mouth. Kay go!

[loserguy]

It is all legal in the UK.
As I see it he is either not sure or not ready which is why he is still seeing the girl.
Unfortunately if and when is a decision only he can make and if you put too much pressure on him it will probably end in tears for you.
Try talking to him and see if you can figure out what he wants?
From that you might be able to see whether he is worth pursuing or not?
Two things are obvious here:
1. You have fallen hard for him.
2. He needs time to discover who he is.
My advice would be not to mention it to anybody else as it will cause problems I think?
Continue as you are if you are both happy to do this. There are no guarantees in life and while I do not see a future between you and he it all depends on whether he is ready and whether you can have patience.

Good Luck!

[princealbertofb]

Hello, Sy, and to GaySpeak.

Wow! That's a story that can't be comfortable living.

It seems to me that you need to talk. You know it's got to happen. You need to talk to him because he's going to be confronted with choices as you are facing them yourself now. Is the boy so unaware that there is a problem?

So, it may not be illegal to be in a relationship with a 17 year-old in the UK, but I feel that you are seen as a father figure to this young man.

For some reason, I get the impression that there is no father around. Am I right? You are the older male here, and therefore the trouble you need to worry most about is the boy's mother. Unless she knows you are gay and trusts you, because maybe she knows that her son is not into girls after all, and she'd rather it were you? But I sense that you know you're not being honest with her, he's not being honest with her and he's not being honest with his girlfriend either.

There's a lot of fooling other people going on here, and you'll only be happy when things settle into a manageable pattern, but you've got to prepare yourself for denial and rejection, as the young man finally makes choices. If he chooses you, you ought to be happy, if his mother doesn't start blaming you for turning her son gay (of course, you didn't), which is how she may feel.

Therefore, you've got to have the talk with the young man. Tell him, as honestly as you can, what the options are. He may not realise quite the tangle into which he's got himself now. His girlfriend may seem like a safety jacket for the moment, but it's all going to explode one day if you're not careful.

Have you thought of a way out of the relationship, one in which you have some type of control? How soon till this young man becomes eighteen? It won't settle the matter, but at least you could pretend to his mother that you didn't do it before he was of adult age.

[MisterTinkles]

Getting involved with a teenager is like eating an apple before it is ripe.

You are in for one mouthful of sour and bitter, until that fruit has had time to mature properly.

[Ryocchi]

I hope you're prepared for a world of emotional pain, for being judged like scum and probably losing a few friends, because if this ever comes up that's most certainly going to happen, The girlfriend most likely scream it to everyone who wants to listen, your friend will probably don't take it so well and talk to some friends, even if by some miracle it never gets discovered you're in for the emotional pain, this boy is nowhere ready to reciprocate your feelings, there are some (very rare) mature young males but by having a girlfriend and having sex with you for a year doesn't speak too good for him. (Neither for you.)

So my only advice would be ending it sooner than later, st him down explain that the rules have changed encourage him to be himself and live his life and if sometime later when you're both more mature (yes I said both because deciding to sleep with you're friend's son who happens to have a girlfriend is not the most mature move, I could understand a one time thing that happened while you were drunk, but an almost year affair, not likely.) you two still feel something, try it out.

[Evan88]

You are indeed the more matured guy between you two..much matured physically, mentally, emotionally...

So, i must assume, you know what is the right thing to do...

The thing between you two would probably not last, so you must be the one to cut the ties

The more you prolong this, the more you two would get hurt

[dfiant]

I don't think you are trying hard enough to date other guys and you are emotionally immature and this is going to be an awesome learning experience for you.

Not only will you end up lost, lonely and hurt, you will alienate the child and his mother.

I have nothing against the age difference, but when the emotional maturity is obviously absent in the both of you, it is going to be nothing than a fuck in the dark and expect a relationship he is going to do a runner...right into the arms of his GF.

You will get clingly and then things will get ugly.

[Ekwarph]

Do you sleep with him or are you in love?
People seem to confuse the two things here.

[Joshular]

I wana change what I said... This sounds like a porn!

[sy274]

i think im in love with him cos he is all i think about