Non genital intimacy: why do I dislike messy real sex

[Baycitybreeze]

I love sexual intimacy. But I seem to be get off much more with non genital intimacy than anal or oral. Specifically I don't feel comfortable with another person sucking my cock, licking their finger and then Stroking my cock, or just pre cum anywhere. I seem to like things dry not wet.

I have not had a real long term relationship. At most it was friends with benefits. Over the years I have become used to being cautious and ensuring safety. I don't even give or receive oral.

What gets me off includes

• Passionately kissing and making out
  
• Aggressively fondling and licking my nipples
  
• Being pressed under a man and being kissed by him on his terms all over, making me moaning shaking begging.
  
• Feeling the weight of him, his abrupt and rough looking body language
  
• Touching his chest and thighs, licking his hairy chest
  

Usually after all this, we lay happily I'm bed, exhausted and satisfied. I have been with guys who also likes this.

Why do I like to see cocks, oral porn and yet when it's for real I don't want to do oral and anal or even being too close to his cock?

Is this the results of worrying about safety? Do I just have a special kind of sexual taste?

It's frustrating for guys who really like it wet and messy. They think I dislike them. And it makes them feel bad.

What do you think?

[Rough]

My boyfriend and I usually have non-genital sex. We've become so intune with each other's bodies, it's quite possible to reach orgasm with hardly any stimulation of the cock or ass. We usually start off with a massage; I rarely massage him. He just really prefers doing me. Then, we begin to make out. We start off really slow and passionate. Then, once fully aroused, we cuddle up, completely naked, and either play with each other's nipples or I scratch behind his ear. He loves that. It's so cute. Once he's on the brink of an orgasm, I take his cock for the first and final time, give about 3 strokes, and he's climaxing. It's beautiful. We are very open minded, so we've tried a lot of stuff. I am a huge fan of wet, sloppy kisses and blowjobs, but I admit that the more intimate moments are the best. It's lovely to know that you can do anything to your partner, and just because it's you, he can come.

[MisterTinkles]

Everybody has "sex" via their own way. Just because it is "standard" for most people to have messy, sloppy "in and out" sex, does not mean there are not 100 other methods and ways to "be" with someone else.

There are some people who like having sex with their clothes on! Don't ask, too much to explain this early in the morning....LOL.....basically it involves a lot of rubbing.


I am a neat freak and highly organized. This relates to sex also. Everything has to be neat, clean, and in the place it needs to be, in order for me to get anything out of it.

Condoms are good for people who don't like messes......they aren't just for having internal sex with someone else.....they keep things from getting messy too.

There is nothing wrong with what you like, the way you like it, as long as the person you with also finds nothing wrong with it.

One of my "ex's" was a clean freak......as soon as "it was over", he LEAPED out of bed and ran to the shower. But that was his way.

Everybody is different.

[partis]

Ugh I hate the thought of anybody liking my hairy chest or anywhere that's not.. I don't want my hairs getting stuck together with your saliva thank you very much.

Stop watching porn, its not real!