I can't get his past out of my head

[East]

If he is honest about it...you should count your blessings. He's a keeper.

Plenty of guys will tell you whatever it is you want to hear. If you have this problem for long....you will be easily manipulated in the future.

[ras1313]

You're being unreasonable. I kind of had the same thing in my relationship at first. I knew that my partner wasn't a virgin but that wasn't what bothered me. I was nervous about the fact that he used to send pictures to other guys a lot. He's open about it but it upset me. I got over it but sometimes I still think about it. If he was hiding it from you, it's a different situation.

[southbiochem]

I am afraid the problem lies with you.

Yes, it wasn't pretty what he did a few weeks ago if he's in a relationship.

But if he has shown remorse and doesn't show any other cheating behavior, then I can see he is invested in the current relationshp with you.

You just have to deal with the fact that he comes with a past, and as long as he doesn't shove them in your face or compares you to them all the time, then you're fine.

He's with you now!

[ChrisH]

To the OP:

1) Everyone has a past, some baggage, and a dark side. Love it all to the best of your abilities.
2) He made a dick move with him asking his ex for a junk selfie; if I'm honest, I would've immediately been pissed off about it, talked it out and then deal with the results.

You can't win everybody, but hey, if you've been in this for six whole months, then you guys REALLY SHOULD talk about it.

[Wardo94]

You guys just started your relationship. Anything you did or he did should NOT affect either of you at all. All that matters is what is happening now. He has moved on from those people and is with you now.....

The thing with the phone I would say is cheating. Not full blown, but it's not good on his part. There's a difference to getting off to a pic' of someone's dick on a porn site, and then someone individually asking someone elsefor a pic'. How you feel at this point in the relationship is what matters right now. I believe in second chances, but only for some people. If he's been nothing, but great with you and you genuinely have feelings for him, then it's okay. But a second time, then he's no good. Either way, you should talk to him about it and set some ground rules.....

The idea of you going to get experience with other guys doesn't seem like the best idea. What's wrong with gaining that experience with him? He is your boyfriend. If he really cares about you, then he can be patient and you both can have fun.