Is my bf really gay?

[hank]

He said this, that it would make him feel more manly and dominant and thats why he wants me to wear panties. And I shave to keep my body smooth, so panties wont look too bad on me.

Than rock those panties, it might be fun.

[swalter]

I guess.. but i just dont understand why a gay man would be attracted to feminine qualities.

What you describe is textbook inability to empathize with others. I'm sure you have a "type", or look that turns you on. Think of that feeling you get when you think of your ideal type. Now, try and understand that this feeling you have is just like how your boyfriend feels when he thinks about you showing your feminine side. You don't need to accept those feelings as your own; just understand that he gets those feelings when he's exposed to those qualities.

[dowhatchuwant10]

The question for yourself, is if you like any of these qualities about your boyfriend. And more in a sense of, if you feel comfortable with him wanting you to shave or putting on lingerie and stuff like that. There's nothing wrong with saying no to him and you guys can have a talk about it if it happens.

From what he says, he is most probably gay. When he tried having sex with a girl he couldn't maintain an erection and it didn't feel right. He also has 5 older brothers, and according to some researchers the more older brothers you have, the more likely you are to be gay. (I have one older brother). Would you like it if you boyfriend wore lingerie? (he doesnt want me to wear a bra or anything because i obviously dont have boobs)

[swalter]

Than rock those panties, it might be fun.

If you don't feel comfortable being a freak, and doing what turns your man, I don't think you're with the right guy. As long as it's safe, why not? Life is short.

[hank]

I guess.. but i just dont understand why a gay man would be attracted to feminine qualities.

Maybe he likes you. And wouldnomatter what your "qualities" are. Maybe hefe isattracted to who you are verses your persona.

If that is the case you are damn lucky.

[hank]

If you don't feel comfortable being a freak, and doing what turns your man, I don't think you're with the right guy. As long as it's safe, why not? Life is short.

Hey, don't knock something until you try it.

[dowhatchuwant10]

If you don't feel comfortable being a freak, and doing what turns your man, I don't think you're with the right guy. As long as it's safe, why not? Life is short.

How would that make me a freak? pretty sure liking scat and other fetishes are worse.

[dowhatchuwant10]

Maybe he likes you. And wouldnomatter what your "qualities" are. Maybe hefe isattracted to who you are verses your persona.

If that is the case you are damn lucky.

What do you mean?

[swalter]

How would that make me a freak? pretty sure liking scat and other fetishes are worse.

Wow, I think you're missing the point here. When I say "be a freak" for your man, I'm not talking about scat, or any other specific fetish. I'm saying, as long as what your boyfriend wants in bed is safe, you should be willing, even eager to accommodate and please him. Wouldn't you want the same from him? You're in an intimate, adult relationship, so act like it. One important part of such a relationship is fulfilling each other's sexual needs. If you're not willing to do that, your relationship is doomed, and dysfunctional from the start.

[hank]

What do you mean?

What I mean really is that ifhe loves you it doesn't matter. If he does than he probably doesn't want you to change.

He likes you the way you are. That is awesome, that means being yourself is what gets his motor running. If it didn't he probably wouldn't want to have sex with you. He knows you're a man yet he wants you, not some woman but you.

You are wanted, the way you are. If things get to weird and you don't want to put on panties and stockings and crap, don't you don't have to.

But just because he is attracted to you, a man, that doesn't fit the stereo type of a manly man absolutely means he is gay/bi. Regardless of how girly you may act you are a man,.

Just relax, if this bothers you talk to him Tell him you don't want to wear women's clothing, or if you do go for it.

Point is, you have a guy, I assume a good looking guy that likes you for you. Revel in that. You are lucky.