05-30-2014, 04:24 AM
It's possible that you could have a BF and not come out quite yet. It just makes it harder to find a guy. I think you should come out because you are (or appear to be) confident in who you are, and not to find a BF, which seems to be your reasoning. Although actually, once you have a BF it's a lot easier to come out, because then you have something interesting to say! You can say, "I'm dating ________." But I guess saying, "I think I want a BF" works pretty well too.
Some people make the baby step as coming out as bi first. That's another option. This whole idea that there are three compartments for human sexuality, gay, bi, and straight, feels awfully limiting and simplified. Live your life, love whomever you want, and let others think what they will.
As for rejection, yeah, it can happen. But you have your family and you will not be completely friendless, no way. In fact, by not telling your friends you are robbing them of the chance to support you for who you are.
As to how to come out, the 2 basic strategies are (A) to tell your best friend first who you know will be okay with it and work down the list from there; or (B) tell the biggest gossip you know. There's a huge collection of young people coming out in vids on youtube. I've never been able to make it all the way through one. They're kinda boring. But you could have fun with that and it would surely make the rounds at your school. You'd get a good laugh out of it when you watch it again in a few years.
Some people make the baby step as coming out as bi first. That's another option. This whole idea that there are three compartments for human sexuality, gay, bi, and straight, feels awfully limiting and simplified. Live your life, love whomever you want, and let others think what they will.
As for rejection, yeah, it can happen. But you have your family and you will not be completely friendless, no way. In fact, by not telling your friends you are robbing them of the chance to support you for who you are.
As to how to come out, the 2 basic strategies are (A) to tell your best friend first who you know will be okay with it and work down the list from there; or (B) tell the biggest gossip you know. There's a huge collection of young people coming out in vids on youtube. I've never been able to make it all the way through one. They're kinda boring. But you could have fun with that and it would surely make the rounds at your school. You'd get a good laugh out of it when you watch it again in a few years.