Feeling a bit strange.

[rroepcke]

So I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months, just tonight we decided to have a bit of fun for the first time. So we were doing it (just BJ's really) and I made him cum. After he tried to get me to cum but no matter how much he tried it just wouldn't happen. I find the guy to be so attractive and have essentially fallen for him and this is the first time we'd ever done anything - but I'm worried that he may feel like a failure. I guess the truth is that once he cums the excitement leaves for me. I don't know, feeling a little confused about the situation.

[Samdabisa]

Try not to take it too personally this first time, people come to climax at different speeds, all depends one's body. Maybe next time he works at having you cum first. Or, consider this: talk to each other during fun time, try and coordinate orgasms, let each other know how close you're getting. If you try and cum together, may make you feel better.

[Mark]

Some guys are just into the orgasm side of it.. Maybe you need to be finished off first before he is?

[TwisttheLeaf]

I guess the truth is that once he cums the excitement leaves for me. I don't know, feeling a little confused about the situation.

Tell him this. It's important and should make a difference in how he feels. And, if this is the case, just make sure in your play that you cum first. That way you both get satisfaction and that feeling of completion.

[Uneunsae]

This can happen to me. So with my partners I try for simultaneous climax or me first then I'll happily finish him off. I get a lot of pleasure from seeing my partner cum so I think this has a lot to do with it.

Everyone has sex a little differently.

[VidasParalelas]

Some guys are just into the orgasm side of it.. Maybe you need to be finished off first before he is?

^

I think this is a very good idea.

[Lambert]

Hmm i had the same problem when I first was with a guy too. I found it hard for me to cum, but you get used to it