07-10-2016, 08:12 PM
Hey everyone! First post here, scouring the internet for advice....
So this is my problem; I am 30 and I have a great sex life with my partner. We have been together for two years now. Our sex is nothing like my previous relationships, it really feels like we mutually enjoy each other and have pretty similar sexual preferences.
So This sounds great, what could be wrong?
In all honesty it is, and I know the majority is just a state of mind however... He doesn't initiate. Ever. And when I say ever, I really mean never. We still have sex regularly, 3 or 4 times a week however I am always the one who reaches over, rubs his body, gets the juices flowing... And I honestly feel neglected. I feel myself wanting and desiring this in return. I lay there sometimes after I feel like I made it obvious I am wanting sex, crossing every limb in my body hoping he will touch me. Just TOUCH me!! I scream this to myself as I lie on my side...
But nothing, ever. In the worst moments when I really am in the mood, I will swallow my frustration and turn around and initiate again. He always gets into, he doesn't shy away or tell me he isn't in the mood...
However if he IS in the mood, he will never tell me. He will go and take his phone to the bathroom (which I have nothing against)... But I just wish he would point that desire towards me sometimes. I wish he would hold me, and push HIMSELF against ME so that I feel wanted.
I have tried to talk to him about it but he is not very receptive, unfortunately. He is under the impression that he does initiate. I am not sure what to do or if I should just resolve myself to not receiving this sort of affection for the rest of my life... And even if I do decide this... How do I stop myself from getting so very frustrated some mornings or evenings. I don't want to make him feel bad either if this is just the way it is...
So, does anybody have any experience with this? What do you guys think?
Thanks in advance for the advice
So this is my problem; I am 30 and I have a great sex life with my partner. We have been together for two years now. Our sex is nothing like my previous relationships, it really feels like we mutually enjoy each other and have pretty similar sexual preferences.
So This sounds great, what could be wrong?
In all honesty it is, and I know the majority is just a state of mind however... He doesn't initiate. Ever. And when I say ever, I really mean never. We still have sex regularly, 3 or 4 times a week however I am always the one who reaches over, rubs his body, gets the juices flowing... And I honestly feel neglected. I feel myself wanting and desiring this in return. I lay there sometimes after I feel like I made it obvious I am wanting sex, crossing every limb in my body hoping he will touch me. Just TOUCH me!! I scream this to myself as I lie on my side...
But nothing, ever. In the worst moments when I really am in the mood, I will swallow my frustration and turn around and initiate again. He always gets into, he doesn't shy away or tell me he isn't in the mood...
However if he IS in the mood, he will never tell me. He will go and take his phone to the bathroom (which I have nothing against)... But I just wish he would point that desire towards me sometimes. I wish he would hold me, and push HIMSELF against ME so that I feel wanted.
I have tried to talk to him about it but he is not very receptive, unfortunately. He is under the impression that he does initiate. I am not sure what to do or if I should just resolve myself to not receiving this sort of affection for the rest of my life... And even if I do decide this... How do I stop myself from getting so very frustrated some mornings or evenings. I don't want to make him feel bad either if this is just the way it is...
So, does anybody have any experience with this? What do you guys think?
Thanks in advance for the advice