Closeted

[SilentFilm1988]

Hi guys,

Just want to know your opinions.

Is it possible to be closeted but still find a boyfriend?

Hi Bluedragon, just curious, you don't have to answer. How long have you known were gay? I knew I was at about 14 but didn't come out until I was 22.

[Mark]

I'd say it is but you wouldn't have a very healthy relationship if you had to constantly hide it.

[TwisttheLeaf]

Yes, it's possible. Easier if the other half is also in the closet, from what I understand. Then you both are as dedicated to protecting each other's preferences as your own.

[polfsky]

I think it's possible, but would it be fair if he's not also in the closet? It means he has to be in a somewhat secret relationship with you. Your date will always involve going places where you wouldn't run into people you know, etc.

[bluedragon]

Hi Bluedragon, just curious, you don't have to answer. How long have you known were gay? I knew I was at about 14 but didn't come out until I was 22.

I was gay since I was 13. I realised that I enjoyed going to porn websites to view pics of nude guys. ( I know its a very young age. What a naughty boy I was then. ) But the LGBT awareness was not well-known then, so I used to hate myself thinking its wrong. But, after 2010, I accepted myself for who I am but just chose not to come out to others.

[VidasParalelas]

Sure, it's possible. It's a lot of work, though. I don't think I could date someone in the closet. Too complicated for me.

[Cuddly]

I sometimes think that we should get rid of the 'closet' cncept and adopt an attitude of "It's my own damned business."

When you really stop to think about it, does everyone deserve to know your personal like?

In my opinion it's more of a "why should anybody give a shit about what my personal likes are?". A boyfriend most likely wants to be held, publicly or not, and probably wants to be a part of the family and go out to have dinner and catch a movie, without worrying about you being seen with him by somebody you know. You can have a sextoy while you're in the closet, but you can't have a boyfriend. The sextoy might be your regular go-to toy for your guilty pleasures, but it's still just to relieve the pressure so you can go back to living your pretend-to-be-straight life.

It IS your own damned business, but I wouldn't want to live this life in utter isolation, so I share my life with those I care about and who care about me! Don't you agree?