Advice for anal sex? Young guys - inexperienced.

[LucasVonSeattle]

I think that others have said what I was hesitant to say. The frequency at which you are having sex is likely part of the issue regarding the comfort. More often certainly helps the body get used to it.

[BobInTampa]

The only other advice i'd add, besides lots of fingering (1 then 2 fingers) and going slow, is POPPERS! Amyl Nitrate in a bottle you can buy at any adult bookstore is a safe way to help you relax. Poppers are a liquid in a bottle that you sniff and that causes a rapid dilation of the blood vessels and give you a temporary "rush." Poppers have been a staple of gay sex for decades and have worked for me and my hubby (and we're both WELL above average in the length and size department). The cost varies by brand, but a small bottle shoudln't cost more than $12-$15US.

[LucasVonSeattle]

BobInTampa, I respect your right to do what you wish with your own body, but I would advise against poppers. Poppers can cause headaches and erectile dysfunction. While everyone has the right to put what they want into their own bodies, the potential harmful side effects aren't worth it in my opinion. A close friend just experienced some of the worst pain of his life from doing poppers. He ended up in the emergency room with a headache that made him vomit and it subsided only after 3 days.

[Beaux]

you can always try poppers....

[LJay]

There may be a certain amount of sense in your and your buddy investing in moderately sized dildos for in between times.

[supasyd]

when i was young and inexperienced, i played with my hole a lot when i was alone and so my first time was kinda easy. Although once I did it with a guy who was too wide. If you're struggling try one finger, and gradually allowing more and more fingers, with plenty of lube. Once you're on about 3-4 you should be able to take the real thing pretty hard! hahaha (sorry if this is graphic, I'm kind of a prude xD)

[Virge]

My BF and I use poppers "sometimes" but not much. The main thing for us (me top -- him bottom) is the foreplay and.... believe it or not, after a good bout of intense foreplay he doesn't even want lube!!!! (which is rougher on me than him I think) Once we're connected we don't get all crazy and start humping cuz I'm usually not done with foreplay. I really get off seeing him get so worked up he's half crazy. 90% of the time we are in any position for face to face contact.

I'm crazy about rimming and seeing him enjoy it so after 30 minutes of that he's insane. Pretty much by accident we discovered how I can make him have orgasms just from anal stimulation. It's all about the angle and the prostate gland. (maybe I should start a thread on that if the moderators won't freak out)

As far as I'm concerned, it's the top's job to get the guy who's going to bottom in the mood for it. My BF says once I started getting him so worked up he stopped caring if it hurt or not and just wanted it. After that it never hurt again.

LOL.. and I keep letting him know that I'm willing to bottom for him like we did when we first met but he just shrugs it off and says "okay, but lets just say we did that and don't."

[Uneunsae]

I agree with a lot of foreplay. That does it for me. My favorite is position is to sit backwards in my partner's lap while he has his arms around me. That way I have a lot of control and he can also thrust upwards a bit.

[Virge]

One other thing.......... PORN IS NOT the way it's done.... not if you really really want it to be great. We do it awhile, talk, sip whatever we have to drink, play fight... anything to add fun.

If you want to see the one porn that shows how two guys in a relationship do it, google "Austony" 34:39 minutes and you may learn a few things.

[Uneunsae]

Thank goodness. Real sex is so much better than porn.