Thanks for your advice and thanks for sharing your personal story. He takes cialis. Cialis makes his "tool" hard and I'm COMPLETELY ok with that. His problem and he has said it many times is that he does not want to or has the same sexual desire as he used to be. It has been more than a year. He has had 2 yearly check ups but I don't think he addresses the issue. I have suggested to talk to his doctor but I think he does not do it. Last check up was 3 weeks ago everything is perfect but never brought the subject. Now, the lack of sex is making me angry. His previous relationships ended because of due to the lack of sex his partners cheated. I hade thought about it I must confess. I've suggested the testosterone thing but I guess he is not even interested in fixing that because it's not a priority. Not sure what to do. I've reached the point where I have suggested him to only kiss me while I masturbate. Or just make out and I'll masturbate. Not even that works. My mind is telling me that he is just not interested in me.
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I have asked him. He is just not interested. He makes excuses "it's Monday , I'm tired" "my back hurts" "we will do it on the weekend" however after all the excuses are gone still no interest in sex. I have been patient. I don't ask anymore. I understand he is getting older but....let's face it, sex does not have to be a intense cardio session. Sex for me comes in many ways and I get pleased in any of them. The problem is that seems like he is scared of sex
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He knows I'm there for him. He knows I have been asking for us to go to couple therapy. He knows I am ok with him taking cialis and he also knows I'm ok with him not having an erection. He knows that I would like him to talk to the doctor about the lack of sex. He thinks he is old and that is part of being old. 56 for me it's not old. I don't want sex even on a weekly or biweekly basis. I want him to feel the sexual desire an that is my satisfaction. Am open relationship won't work because he does not want that. I don't want a sexless relationship either when I know it can be fixed
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He's just not as interested in sex as you are. That's not easy, I know and I'm sorry.
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Every month and a half you have sex???
Trust me, it could be worse. Buying an eight pack of condoms is basically purchasing a decade of safe sex in my household....
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partner is 56 and lack of sex (basically)
