His past and his sex tapes

[TwisttheLeaf]

I'm going to put myself out here and say something I will probably get flamed for.

There are so many posts on this forum full of drama and guys clinging to BFs who either don't want them or who just simply are a terrible match for them. I don't quite understand this but can say that none of it is necessary. It's like guys don't believe they can actually find someone they can mesh with most of the time. Yeah, there are going to be differences, but they shouldn't cause so much anguish. Most of these issues wouldn't be a factor if people who find mates with whom they are compatible. It's very important.

For some it's a lack of self-esteem, for others it's a need for attention, and sometimes desperation or a million other reasons. But people create so much unnecessary pain for themselves.

Be good to yourself and seek out someone you feel comfortable with.

I'm not sure why you would be flamed for this. I agree with you.

I understand being lonely and wanting someone in one's life. But... one has to have boundaries and limits on what they can and will accept from those around them, including their partner.

I think a lot of people don't realize this, and that's where they run into problems. Or they haven't learned what their boundaries and limits are, or how to establish them and not allow others to compromise them.

[Jake]

I'm going to put myself out here and say something I will probably get flamed for.

There are so many posts on this forum full of drama and guys clinging to BFs who either don't want them or who just simply are a terrible match for them. I don't quite understand this but can say that none of it is necessary. It's like guys don't believe they can actually find someone they can mesh with most of the time. Yeah, there are going to be differences, but they shouldn't cause so much anguish. Most of these issues wouldn't be a factor if people who find mates with whom they are compatible. It's very important.

For some it's a lack of self-esteem, for others it's a need for attention, and sometimes desperation or a million other reasons. But people create so much unnecessary pain for themselves.

Be good to yourself and seek out someone you feel comfortable with.

And why would you get flamed for it... to be it makes perfect sense... in fact we all say the very same things with different way of saying it.

[Uneunsae]

Well, because a majority of posts are of this nature so it's kind of like insulting most people here. But I felt it needed to be said. And not in a round about way. It's coming from a good place, though.

[Iceblink]

So he likes to video his sexual encounters. You're not agreeing to this, are you? I don't understand why people do this. It can follow you for a lifetime. You've seen video of his sex with other guys. Would you want other people to see you having sex? Do you know if all the other guys gave consent to be filmed? As much as it might seem like it to you, four months is not that long of a time to really know someone.

[Jake]

Well, because a majority of posts are of this nature so it's kind of like insulting most people here. But I felt it needed to be said. And not in a round about way. It's coming from a good place, though.

Trust me dude there's many complaints in here and many other similar forums where I'd like to tell people to stop whining and take responsibilities for their decisions. First for me it's also very annoying that one is considering a 2 or 4 months relationship to be all clear boyfriend material. But it's my opinion of course