To the original poster, Excalibur.
Note that even gays' existence has sometimes been questioned by straight people and some religions. They are / were / have been so afraid of the difference that they would say there is abnormal and deviant behaviour but no such thing as 'gays'. It seems to me, however, that the variations in human sexuality have been averred by many studies, some not even very recent. Since then it has been accepted that:
1) being gay is just a variant, not a deviance from straight reproductive sexuality;
2) the spectrum is pretty wide and most people would fall somewhere in it from 100% straight, to 100% gay, but because we are intrinsically curious, we humans have the potential and capacity for both change and experimentation in that respect.
So, basically anyone who contests the existence of gays, or bisexuals, as such, is just being ignorant of the whole frame and uses this argument as a tool for their own satisfaction.
Second point. We spend our time being judged by others, in all sorts of capacities, so it is normal that gays should be able to judge too. We're good learners. If we can pretend to be straight, we can pretend to know better than the rest as well. Gays just imitate what others do. The thing is, gays probably have the same sort of language skills that a lot of females do (ie, they know the power of words) and therefore can be more apt to choose the right word to either heal or maim.
Having had the aim of words so often targeted against them as they grow up, they have found it a useful tool for at least being able to give scathing repartee. If you can't fight (or won't fight) with your fists, then harsh words will do the trick just the same. Otherwise, how could we explain the power of bullying?
Mostly, I'd say that anyone using words against another is, in some way or other, probably bullying, showing lethal force in the shape of sentences, words, insults, 'readings'... etc.
Are gays more judgmental than straights? Probably not, but they seem to be good at handling those words as a shield to other people's insults, and as a weapon against stupidity, or the fear of being caught with their guard down.
Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.
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