What Do You Think Of My Sexuality?

[strangecolour]

This was a problem for me some months back but lately I have been doing okay, I consider myself asexual (and heteromantic) now as i don't find real sex interesting, but I do get into seeing others having sex (porn). I was heavy in masturbating when I was young, and now a days, erections arouse me. So mainly I favor seeing blowjob/handjob videos more than the actual intercourse parts. It used to terrify me a long time ago because that was new, but I've learned to accept that seeing decent sized penises erect is an arousal trigger when I watch porn cause I've always loved being erect. I would find the transition from soft to hard fascinating, and the sensation wonderful. But I want to know how you all think of that?

[Miles]

I don't think of it

sounds fine

[palbert]

.... I was heavy in masturbating when I was young, and now a days, erections arouse me. ....

Your profile says 18. You're still young - if not very young. You have a lot of experiences ahead of you. It's too soon to be building boxes around your sex life.

[Steve]

Well done! You've come to terms what you like sexually. Doesn't it feel wicked hot throwing wood?


(It doesn't matter what I think. You feeling good is all you need to know.)
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[Bowyn Aerrow]

There is a very real problem with the 21st century and the age of free information, its call 'Porn Addiction' and it is a chemical addiction.

A lot of 'straight' guys are discovering an interest in homosexual pornography and as wondering if they are gay.

The answer is No they are not gay, because they are not able to form the bonds of intimacy and closeness that two men who love each other do. Sex is only a minor part of of sexuality.

Most teen males do indeed masturbate almost as much as bonobo monkeys in their puberty as all of those hormones and other interesting chemicals take charge of the body and lead to a libido which isn't readily quenched. the step to sexual maturity is a big one and most severe change, as the same hormones that regulate sex drive also regulate all of the changes that takes a child and makes a man out of him - physically, mentally, emotionally man.

Until the middle to late 90's of the 20th Century most had only a few magazines, perhaps a few stolen videotapes that they could watch. Now days most have access to the internet which is about 37% pornography.

Such access to fantasy materials means that any person can now pretty much burn out the fantasy centers of their brain early on, thus develop a craving for more exotic fantasies, which for straight males seems to be that women become 'boring' and male on male action or other males in general become intoxicating.

I do not use the word intoxicating lightly, as such activities are largely chemical.

This is not a new phenomena. In the Gay community in the era prior to the internet age, young men who had lots of sex partners would start off with mere vanilla, but due to the amount of sex they were having they would have to incorporate other things like drugs and BDSM and other 'stuff' in order to get sex to be as 'great' as it was before they got 'bored' of 'just vanilla'.

The same thing happened to straight men - yet they mostly stuck with their straight aspects of sex.

And this may be a far older problem considering the history of wild sex activities that humans devised. The Georgian Era was especially bawdy and overtly sexual. So much so that their kids and grand kids decided to push the pendulum to the other extreme, thus the puritanical Victorian Era emerged with a lot of sexual practices being frowned upon.

I cannot stress this enough. Sex and sexuality are not altogether the same thing.

Whilst sex does take place in sexuality, the real determining factors about sexuality is about the ability to bond with or mate with another. If all you think about when contemplating a man is his dick (hard dick) and just sex, then this is just sex.

If however you can see yourself settling down with a man, having long romantic (but not necessarily sexual) interactions with him, building a life with him, sharing your life with him beyond the bedroom, then you are either gay or bi.

Gay if you cannot see yourself being that intimate and bonding with woman, bisexual is you can see yourself sharing a life with a woman, sharing, building, having romance, etc beyond mere sexual activities.

I have a minor problem with alcohol and drugs.... Usually my take on that is there is not enough of those in my life.... You see the real problem?

Addictive behavior is not about the substance, its about the sex of behaviors and patterns that usually see to 'feel good' through the use/abuse of whatever substance.

In order to address porn addiction you will need to address the other underlying issues.

There are support groups and treatments: https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=por...+treatment

I would suggest SLAA: Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

This is a 12 step program with meetings and groups of people who share similar issues get to get together, share their stories, and give each other support.

Mind I would not suggest just SLAA or any 12 step program just by itself. I would also suggest professional therapy to work on other issues in your life as most people who are addicted to something usually tend to be using that addiction as 'self medication' for other issues.

For myself, I discovered that SAD, PTSD and a slew of other interesting underlying things were the 'root' of my addictions, once I started addressing those things the need for my drugs of choice diminished greatly.

Self discovery is important to the addict, for usually the real problem is not their 'drug of choice' the real problem is something that the are using their drug of choice to medicate away.

[Borg69]

Penises are very fascinating! I like looking at them too.

[meridannight]

i think you are missing out on a lot if you are not interested in sex.