How many is too many?

[princealbertofb]

I'd like to ask : are you scared of seeing, watching a whole bunch of guys going at it with gusto for a few hours? If so, flee like the wind. If not, if you find the idea sexy, and if you are curious, but not too willing to participate, at first at least, offer to go with a camera and decide that you're just going to film the action. Some of them might like that.

However, if you can't be allowed just to be the fly on the proverbial wall, then maybe you should just abstain. I don't know what I'd do. I'd probably decline the offer, but if I were curious enough to watch and not actually get in the middle of it all, I'd be happy to film, or at least take it in mentally.

Then there is also the possibility the orgy becomes interesting enough to participate.

As in all things in a couple I think you need to decide on what rules you are both going to follow during such an event. How do you feel about letting him go to this alone? How do you feel about participating in an orgy, as long as you only 'do' it with your boyfriend?

I know I'd feel a little awkward being in the middle of it all because I'd be afraid that some unnecessary pressure would be put upon me to do things I don't wish to do. I think you need to ascertain how much choice you would have to participate, or not, before you go down that road.
You can also decide that this partner isn't what you need and just end the relationship and find someone more suitable to your current needs.

I know, it's scary, but nobody wants to have to deal with the consequences of trauma.

[princealbertofb]

Haha any pointers?
It's just an intimidating situation to be in only having been with to average sized guys. What will happen to my ass after something like this??

Well, Unsure, to be honest, nobody's said it would be a gang bang, so in an orgy you might just be having sex with your partner along with a whole lot of other people having sex with their partners or random partners. It doesn't have to follow that every man there will use you as a receptacle for their lust. You can define the rules, but be sure that people are ready to follow those rules. Is your partner generally protective of you and your well-being? Do you trust him?

[reaper]

If you're not comfortable with it you should tell him you're not interested in that.

If he cares for you, that will be enough. If it's a big issue, then that speaks for itself.

You won't be alone in the world, you may be alone for a time, but it will change.

I do some odd things, but their are things that I won't do and I'm comfortable saying so.

If it feels wrong to you, then it's wrong for you!

[princealbertofb]

It's more difficult to stand one's own ground when one's older and experienced, though, Reaper... I think you've grown to know what you'll accept and what you won't, but when you're young you're still so full of doubts, it's normal to be nervous.

[Unsure17]

Thanks everybody for the advice. The way it has been put too me is that they will be running a train on me, but everyone will be taking a turn at receiving. The idea of this does excite me and I'm curious to know what it's likes. The "partner" I'm attending with is just a friend. Nothing emotional so no hang ups there. Has anyone been in this situation or been in an orgy/train like this before?? It sounds exciting but obviously being new to gay sex I just don't know how my body will take it.

[BrianNorth]

Being so inexperienced I'd urge caution myself. It really depends what you are comfortable with. My best advice would be to ask yourself 'What happens afterwards'. So you go and participate and now it's all done. How would you feel about it? Would it change how you perceive sex?

[Jake]

Alright let's be frank here, and I'm not talking about my buddy Frank who lives in Johannesburg, SA lol. It seems to me that it doesn't matter much what we're telling you here, because we're dealing with a dude that just finally accepted (not discovered) its sexuality. Now that same dude wants to experiment. So whatever we'll say here won't change the fact that you're pretty excited at the idea of a gangbang or orgy.

You have got some pretty good advises from everyone here and yet what I read is that you're just very excited and curious, your initial post doesn't actually make sense now when you claim the following:

I'm scared if I say no to his idea I'll be all alone in a new world

And later on in another post you say this:

The "partner" I'm attending with is just a friend. Nothing emotional so no hang ups there.

Therefore the latter statement kind of make the previous statement obsolete, because what do you care about being alone in this new world if you say no to a gangbang/orgy, you confirmed that he's not your boyfriend nor a lover, he's just someone like you who may or may not have had the experience of orgy and gangbang and knowing that you're in your debut he found it to be a very good opportunity to experiment with you since you both are having sex together with no string attached. And at 23 years old, you truly believe you'll be alone? Dude, you have the age that so many are looking for, and if you're one of those Aussie bum similar to my husband, I'd say you are one heck of an attractive guy. I wouldn't worry so much of being all alone.

You are in the age group where people doesn't give a flying fuck of your appearance, at least not at first. Best example... I'm 38 but I don't look my age, Alex is 28 but he doesn't look his age either... in a dating website age is all it seems to be important, my profile and Alex's will be skipped if we set a profile without picture because of our age while your profile even though you have no picture will still be the most popular one because you're 23 years old. Do you undertand now that you're not going to be alone, at least not for the upcoming two years to go. At 20 - 25 I dumped someone, go to a bar or club and get someone else the very same day.

Well, Unsure, to be honest, nobody's said it would be a gang bang, so in an orgy you might just be having sex with your partner along with a whole lot of other people having sex with their partners or random partners

Princealbertofb is pretty right here. You need to make the difference of what is a gangbang and an orgy. I have done both, several time since I used to be a sex worker. A gangbang is often concentrated on one person being the cum dumpster of many others, some may take turns, in my experience, I was the receptive end and also the giving end at another time. And orgy is a bit different, since I participated in an orgy with my husband and well an orgy is more like a bunch of guy having sex with their partner in a same open place.

The way it has been put too me is that they will be running a train on me, but everyone will be taking a turn at receiving

That is not an orgy it's a gangbang

Now that you're educated on difference of an orgy versus a gangbang don't you believe it a little early to go in such extent to find your level of excitation. By experience I can tell you straight away that gang bang are pretty dangerous, for STDs and also for your body, more people involve means more danger. You said to have been concerned about the size of some guys, well if there's 5 of you I don't believe your partner will go around asking everyone what's their size, when you sign up for a gangbang you go with what's being offered and you do not question size.

For someone as inexperienced as you are I'd go with baby steps first, start with three-ways, swinging partners in an orgy but immediately jump to the hard stuff of being gang-banged it's a little stupid and unconscious if you ask me.

What if you say no? What if you decide that you prefer to gain more experience before jumping into the hard stuff, you're fuckbuddy can still go ahead and have his gang-bang without you and keep on having sex with you. A gang bang isn't something that happens every week or everyday.

What advice are you expecting from us here? You're talking to many people with many different take on sex and relationship. Really the decision is yours to take and from what you wrote back, it seems to me that you've taken your decision already and that you're too much excited to see the clear picture.

So go ahead dude have your gang bang, try it and you'll make a decision for yourself. Stop asking around how it was for us, because you'll never get a clear answer from anyone. I did it, Alex, my husband did it, East did it and many others might have done it. East said he liked it, I didn't and I might have done it more than 20 times both gang bang and orgy and to me nothing compared to the intimacy of one on one sex with someone I love. Alex my husband didn't like it either. In porn movies you often see gang bang where the boy end up sucking and taking cums from everyone in their mouth or on body, but Alex went for the tasting and he realized that day that sperms from one individual to another is not the same taste at all and you know what happened. He ends up throwing up - and that wasn't pretty.

The decision is yours, experiment at will, don't be stupid though, same rules apply, if you're going to be gang-banged, request that each member wear a condom. I seriously doubt that your fuckbuddy will run an STD/HIV test on all the participants including himself.

Enjoy!

[Virge]

You would have to be from Brisbane, wouldn't you? Too freaky. What's with you Brissies? Just don't tell me you're from Indooroopilly. I may have to fly there and make sure you're not talking about anyone I know.

I've been having sex with a guy for a few weeks now, I fact he was my first. Lately he has been talking about organising a party(orgy) with a few guys maybe 5-6.
I've only just accepted my sexuality and am still getting to grips with everything sexual, but I'm scared if I say no to his idea I'll be all alone in a new world. Any thoughts??

I was in a VERY similar situation back when I was 20-21 with the guy a guy there in Brisvegas I was crazy about. He wanted to do group things as a way of broadening my experience. I'd been with one guy one time before I met him. I was in a situation 8,000 miles from home and he had already arranged a 4 way before I got there. All I could have done was say no and possibly piss him off --- Or ---- do it.

I did it and after it was over and it was just me and him there --- I learned something. He started getting a little jealous about me enjoying sex with the other two guys possibly more than him. I remembered that so the next time he wanted to do a fourway I made sure I acted like the other guys were better than he was.

After that he never has mentioned it again. hahahaha! From my few experiences with it I feel it's over-rated and always awkward. The intensity and intimacy was missing and I'm into that. One on one is the way it's best.

And then there's all the possible STDs ...

Sooner or later one or more of the other guys is going to run off at the mouth about you being in an orgy.

IF you're serious about wanting to experiment that way but unsure about it -- take a trip to Noosa and get a studio at Noosa Cove apartments, the beaches away from Bris.

[Unsure17]

Thanks everyone for the advice. Sorry if my post is confusing I'm still new to the posting and lingo. Everyone on gs is amazing and this community is absolutely incredible! Thanks for welcoming me with open arms.

As for my situation I will take all the advice into consideration and do what feels best for me!
Cheers xx

[MikeW]

Well, be sure to come back and share all the fine details!