How can I determine if my friend is really straight?

[chrisjm18]

I'm a gay twink, 22 year-old black guy, slim, good looking. I started working at a company 2 weeks ago and after 3 days of being there, a young male, 22 year-old, slim, multiple tattoos, Caucasian of Russian descent joined the company. I developed a crush on him after a few days. I like "bad boys" and he seem to fit that description as he is an ex-con, now at a half-way house. Anyway, we get along well and I drop him off in the evenings after work. Since I'm from the Caribbean and I made mention of Curry Chicken, he told me to cook some for him and take it to work (which I will be doing this week). I tried to bring up gay convo and he smiled.. Anyway on Friday I told him that the HR manager is my wife and his response was "I thought you were gay" and I told him, "I am gay." he then said "as in happy right? or as in love men" I said "love men.." Then another co-worker came up and screwed up our conversation. How can I bring this up again? I'm thinking of putting my rainbow gay ring in my car or on my key ring so he will see it when I'm bringing him home? I keep thinking about this guy all the time... Please advise me.. preferable gay men who know how to tactfully make a move on a "straight" man. I'm assuming he's straight because he talks about girls but that's not proof of him being straight.

[Virge]

I don't get it. Why the heck would you want to get to know an ex-con in a halfway house any better than as a co-worker?

Have you ever considered cutting off your own leg and beating yourself in the head with it?

That would be a safer and possibly more productive thing to do.

I'm sorry if that sounds mean, but buddy anyone who smears sweet words around to answer this question would have to either be lying to you or as misguided as you are.

[LJay]

OP, I could not agree more strongly with Virge. There is nothing wrong with you being a good co-worker, but flirting at work is bad news. Your wife is the HR manager? !!! You really should know better. Are you making this up?

[palbert]

.... I like "bad boys" and he seem to fit that description as he is an ex-con, now at a half-way house. .... Anyway on Friday I told him that the HR manager is my wife and his response was "I thought you were gay" and I told him, "I am gay." he then said "as in happy right? or as in love men" I said "love men.."....

This is all shades of Danger Bay. You want advice on getting an ex-con? Are shivs next. And saying the HR manager is your wife: just how stupid was that?

Seek counseling.

[Borg69]

Leave the jerk off fantasies in your head. The reality of this is nothing but misery and regret.

[Lexington]

I don't make moves on straight guys, because frankly, I don't get off on the "thrill of the hunt'. I'd rather have sex with somebody who wants to have sex with me.

But I know guys who like to go after straight (or "straight') guys. And the main rule they have is "don't talk about - just do it". Less innuendo, more action. Of course, this guy has at least three strikes against him ("straight", co-worker, ex-con) so I'd be amiss if I didn't join the choir and say "this is a really bad idea". But then again, "the only regrets we really have are the moves we did not make", so make of that what you will. Best of luck.

Lex

[BrianNorth]

There is 'bad boy' as in tattoos, leather jacket, listens to Metallica. Then there is did time in prison+other issues. While good people mistakes and go to jail I'd approach with caution and let time prove to you this is a person worth pursuing.

[JackTX]

I'm a gay twink

Why would you tell us you're a twink for this story?

You admit to crushing hard. People in that kind of heat don't generally listen to good advice.

In any case, you already said "I'm gay." He knows, clarification or not. I have no idea how to tell you to get into his pants though.

[Rareboy]

Gay twinks don't have wives.

The devil is in the detail.

Seriously.