12-02-2014, 01:57 PM
Ive experienced that before, I always feel nervous, shy and have the tendencies of hand trembling, body shaking, speaking softly on a date. I've been also on some dates where I beging to feel like a shrink. Some told me that talking to other people often may help. The thing is, I talk to people all the time. Unfortunately, when it comes to a date. If the person I'm dating is really cute, I will become extremely shy. If you consider that weird, then I guess I am. But some people don't have the patience for a person to open up. Maybe they are but they find a bit annoying.
I can still remember the surprise I felt when I stopped panicking on a date long enough to realize that, if you have the right personality, it can be somewhat rewarding and a great relief to notice the signs of social discomfort in your date, too... shaking hands, blushing, a look of panic when you make eye contact (maybe this is what he feels), difficulty talking, nervous laughter, sweating palms, an obvious effort not to say or do the wrong thing and look silly in front of you.
From that date on, I've tried to stop worrying about impressing and entertaining my dates, the poor dears have enough to worry about as it is, they aren't going to notice the great discomfort I was going through to make a good impression. There was a date or two where I let my nerves get the better of me, but I've always felt like I've gotten my best results by going on a date to enjoy myself first, and just make a minimal effort to include my date in the fun. That might seem strange and counter-intuitive, and I still don't completely understand why it works, but I'm not going to argue with it or complain about it much, since it makes things so much easier for me and my date both.
I can still remember the surprise I felt when I stopped panicking on a date long enough to realize that, if you have the right personality, it can be somewhat rewarding and a great relief to notice the signs of social discomfort in your date, too... shaking hands, blushing, a look of panic when you make eye contact (maybe this is what he feels), difficulty talking, nervous laughter, sweating palms, an obvious effort not to say or do the wrong thing and look silly in front of you.
From that date on, I've tried to stop worrying about impressing and entertaining my dates, the poor dears have enough to worry about as it is, they aren't going to notice the great discomfort I was going through to make a good impression. There was a date or two where I let my nerves get the better of me, but I've always felt like I've gotten my best results by going on a date to enjoy myself first, and just make a minimal effort to include my date in the fun. That might seem strange and counter-intuitive, and I still don't completely understand why it works, but I'm not going to argue with it or complain about it much, since it makes things so much easier for me and my date both.