Unsure if we want a threesome?

[P1993]

I have been with my boyfriend 1 year 5 months, and we do love each other, for about a year iv wanted a threeway, he hasnt, he slowly coming around and when we have sex he likes the idea a bit and i do but then obviously after he goes no and so do i, but everytime we have sex or wank or anything its all i think about. we sometimes snapchat with guys and enjoy that, but then i think would it be horrible if i saw him with another guy and same,but its always on my mind! help lol

[Rareboy]

but then i think would it be horrible if i saw him with another guy

Ok Stop it right now.

You can't have it both ways. Either dump the jealous act or respect the idea that both of you are monogamous.

[P1993]

i cant help being jealous as i love him and he loves me

[Darius]

i cant help being jealous as i love him and he loves me

Keep it a fantasy.

[P1993]

i know but everytime we play i want it so bad, turns us both on

[Darius]

What if you do it and he prefers sex with the other guy more than you?

[ChadCoxRox]

I trust my intuition and my gut says it will destroy your relationship. And I'm not against it, it's just a strong gut feeling from all you've said here. My best advise is to fulfill as close as you can in monogamy with strategic and intentional variety and creativity seasoned with as much spontaneity as you can allow to let happen and leave the fantasy of the third party just that...part of the fantasy.

[Borg69]

More often than not, some fantasies are better left as fantasies.

The realities of a threesome has so much potential for things to go horribly wrong if you're not both 200% sure you're ready for it, and both want it.

It opens every potential door for jealousy, infidelity, insecurities, suspicion, lack of trust & self worth, diseases, resentment, ... they're not for everyone.

[Tarkio]

Usually I have no desire to invite a third guy in our sex life but I am inclined to get aroused by younger guys in the age of 18-35. One day when I visited a gay sauna with my man he did something very kind. Personally he had no desire to play with other guys besides me but since he was aware of my inclination to young guys he invited a 21 year old in our cabin. We did have a threesome and it was so nice. My man participated but did that out of love for me. He had no problems with that. I think that was great of him.

[P1993]

yeah i know its just hard, wana spice things up we have a great time but i dont get super turned on unless we watch porn or discuss other guys too or even snapchat some guys.