Reading meaning of things

[bluerealm]

true friends are very hard to find.

[z3ro81]

'You're such a cutie', or 'Awww Markyyy that's so sweet' when I have paid them a complement or done something for them.

Borg69 "It also could very well be they know your buttons and are sucking up for your favors."

late teens (20 next year) and i am just past 30.

test the friendship. Be nice but take away the complements and stop doing things for them.

see if you get 'You're such a cutie', or 'Awww Markyyy that's so sweet'

why are you thinking about this so much? why are you reading into it?

I guess I am just trying to get my head around the whole situation really from an outside point of view really.

He is a good mate, we get on well and I am happy enough with that, but at the same time, if there is anything more than that going on and i am sat there thinking 'its just me reading things that ain't there', then I miss the opportunity of something more.

I guess I may just becoming across as being stupid for even posting this thread, but its just a really odd situation because these comments to me (as I have said) just don't add up as being something one guy says to another guy.

true friends are very hard to find.

Exactly why I want advice, as i don't want to do/say anything that ruins any friendship, which is predominently what it is at the moment.

[Virge]

Sorry Virge, not quite sure I understand what you mean (its been a long year and the old brain matter is just hanging on in there!)

Do you mean I may be right to think this is odd from a 'Straight guy' and i am not reading it wrong?

was being sarcastic...

Trying to read other people's hidden meanings when they say things will get you and anyone in trouble most the time. It's not a good habit

[ChadCoxRox]

If I had a cute, sweet guy texting such to me and I was at risk of possibly misinterpreting I'd pop the ball right back in the other court with something like, "that's sweet talk buddy, I won't be scared if you show me you really mean it." and then leave it well enough alone.

[z3ro81]

Just wanted to finish this thread off by saying thanks for all the advice you guys have given me.

I supsect you are all correct in thinking there is nothing to read into it, I have not heard from the said person over the xmas period (aside to say thanks for the xmas gifts), so i think the post about knowing the correct buttons to press is right.

It always seems to be me who initates the first contact anyway, so I think the best thing to do now is carry on as i have been (without complements and offers of help with things) and see what happens then.

I supsect it will be a case of 'contact me when he wants something' and I am not playing that game.

There was something i read on another post about knowing the difference between a friend and an acquaintance, this one seems firmly on the acquaintance side!

Oh well, 2015 is a whole new year