Homophobic problem in my family

[Anonymous]

The problem is that my younger brother doesn't want to live together with me while our mother will be away. Our family situation is quite complicated, we only have a mother, father left us when my brother was born. Now a good job chance has been offered to our mum but that means she'll have to travel abroad for about a year. My brother is 15 years old now ( I'm 30) and legally he cannot stay alone, someone has to take care of him. I live together with my boyfriend, our place is large and there would definitely be more than enough place for one more person and my boyfriend is willing to welcome him. However my brother categorically refuses to come and live with me.
Maybe the thing is that he's quite homophobic and when he found out I'm gay our relationships changed to the bad side. He says a lot of things - that he'd rather live on the streets than together with queers, that he doesn't want to see us licking each other's mouth or hear us f*cking. He even asked mum to leave him in some orphanage so that he wouldn't have to live with me. Of course, no one would do that. My mum is very liberal and has nothing against my being gay and she has tried several times to reason with him but useless. We don't know what to do with him. He's very stubborn and unfortunately we don't have any other relatives.

[Rareboy]

Put him in the orphanage.

[Anonymous]

Put him in the orphanage.

That's not a solution, we could never do that, we love him. I believe he doesn't really want that either, just saying that out of spite.

[Rareboy]

Well put him in private school somewhere. Just don't ruin a year of your lives trying to make this wretched boy accept you.

That is a solution.

[ShiftyNJ]

"Darling, haven't you ever heard of a delightful little thing called boarding school?"

[Bhp91126]

Huh? Just 15 and so homophobic? He a closet case?

Where does his homophobia come from? is your country still very hostile to gay people or does he have very homophobic friends?

First of all: this is your mothers problem, not yours. Your mom can either take him with her, put him into a boarding school or arm wrestle him to live with you.

[meridannight]

sounds like he needs some good old-fashioned whipping on the ass. spoiled brat.

[Anonymous]

Mum cannot take him with her. Yes, it is my problem as well, he is my brother. It would be unfair to let mum deal with this alone.

He's been going to the same school since the first grade and I believe he likes it. I don't know is it ok to transfer him to a boarding school for just one year. Our country is quite homophobic, I wouldn't call it liberal.

[ck86]

Boarding school is the best solution I can come up with too. Or he doesn't have a choice but to live with the two of you. Good on you for doing your best.

[James]

So before he knew you were gay did you have a good relationship? Explaining you are the same person that he cared about once may help. His friends in high school maybe the problem. Maybe if the high school has a gsa they can help. Just my shotgun thoughts to the problem, Jim