01-14-2015, 01:45 AM
A transsexual is someone who identifies as the opposite gender than they are born. A straight transgender in this case would be living/identifying as a woman while attracted to men. (To answer the question above) I have the feeling you're going to tell us that you aren't a transsexual but I believe Cuddly brought this up because you spoke of being uncomfortable having your masculine traits pointed out, thus the possibility that you may identify as a female.
As for the submissive/dominant thing....it's not just about BDSM clubs, leather and dogcollars. It's not about fetishes and kink....being submissive is as simple as things like...wanting someone to protect and take care of you, of giving up that control to another. It's a part of a person's personality, how they react to another person....
I think overall that you are unhappy/uncomfortable with yourself and your orientation and you need to address that before you attempt to find someone who fits your specifications. You might also want to get past thinking gay is weak because honestly? Even a big burly manly man is likely to take offense with being told he is weak.
Acceptance is key here, and until you accept yourself....you're going to be a very unhappy person.
As for the submissive/dominant thing....it's not just about BDSM clubs, leather and dogcollars. It's not about fetishes and kink....being submissive is as simple as things like...wanting someone to protect and take care of you, of giving up that control to another. It's a part of a person's personality, how they react to another person....
I think overall that you are unhappy/uncomfortable with yourself and your orientation and you need to address that before you attempt to find someone who fits your specifications. You might also want to get past thinking gay is weak because honestly? Even a big burly manly man is likely to take offense with being told he is weak.
Acceptance is key here, and until you accept yourself....you're going to be a very unhappy person.