MikeW Wrote:Yeah, that's actually very good advice.
Most likely you've both watched gay porn. Keep in mind that most porn is scripted and acting. What goes on between two real live human beings could be very different.
For example, it doesn't have to happen in 20 minutes or less. It is fun to have a LOT of foreplay. Like getting in a shower together and scrubbing one another good, inside and out, and *then* getting into bed. Have lots of lube and towels to clean up messes. (I like making love by candle light but that's just me.)
Take your time, work your way up, always staying with what feels good and comfortable. You want to be pleasured but you also want to pleasure your partner, increasing one another's state of arousal but not pushing one another over the edge.
Annal sex does take practice. It is unlikely the first time will go smoothly. It *could* but more likely it will feel awkward and weird (and somewhat painful). That does change with time, experience and practice -- But the first time will NOT be the best sex you'll ever have in your life -- and I GUARANTEE THAT or I'm not avuncular Mr. Mike!
Wow! Your way sounds like such a lot of work! Personally, I prefer to just sock 'Em in the butt and yell "Pop Goes the Weasel!"....but to each their own I guess...
~Beaux
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Beaux Wrote:Wow! Your way sounds like such a lot of work! Personally, I prefer to just sock 'Em in the butt and yell "Pop Goes the Weasel!"....but to each their own I guess...
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Pcolakuntryboy Wrote:If you're going to bottom you need to become very familiar with your anus, I recommend using your fingers to explore a bit first. I know it sounds gross, but you also need to make sure you've had a bowel movement recently, because you don't want there to be any surprises in there, if you know what I mean. Many guys who bottom often use a douche to clean themselves with, but if you're 16 and I live with parents that could be difficult.
Can't I just shower?
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princealbertofb Wrote:You're quite right to take your time. Take time to get to know each other, take time to enjoy the various forms of sexuality you can explore and enjoy together. Oral sex is one of those.
Consider, though, Matt (and I don't mean this to scare you) that oral sex has its own little way of making your sex life difficult. There are things that can be transmitted orally. So if you are in any doubt about illness or disease, consider telling your doctor that you are sexually active. If your boyfriend has been with other boys, he and you will be at risk of passing things on. You just need to be aware of it, without being scared of it. The medical world knows how to treat most of those unpleasantnesses.
Are you supposed to use condoms with oral sex? I really don't want to do that. He doesn't have any diseases
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Matt23 Wrote:Can't I just shower?
Different people, with their different diets, metabolisms, food allergies, ect... each require slightly different preparations to make sure they are clean and, by knowing they are clean, confident. Everyone is a little different.
Anal sex is (imho) all about muscle control. The first few times may be very painful, which is why fingering yourself can be an excellent way to become comfortable with "something up-there". If you are like myself, and maintain a healthy, low oil, high fiber diet, then yes a through shower may very well be all you need. However, it being your first time, you may want to be "extra-safe" and use a $2 Fleet Enema from Walmart, just in case. Remembee, unless you are just a natural born bottom-boy (and there ARE quite a few out there!), then this is going to hurt rather a lot...at least initially... And LUBE. LOTS AND LOTS OF LUBE.
~Beaux
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And if you buy a Fleet enema, don't use the laxative stuff that it comes with, pour that out and refill it with warm water. You DONT want diarrhea, you want just enough to flush out your asshole.
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Pcolakuntryboy Wrote:And if you buy a Fleet enema, don't use the laxative stuff that it comes with, pour that out and refill it with warm water. You DONT want diarrhea, you want just enough to flush out your asshole.
This sounds awful lol
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Hey Matt!
I'm glad that you really like this guy enough to trust him with this kind of intimacy, and I want you to know that you are totally justified to feel nervous! I'm very new to the scene and I was in your shoes no longer than a few months ago, but I took the leap and am so glad that I did!
The first time was amazing for me and I did very little prep beforehand! I just figured: "Hey, it's a hole for nasty things, so I shouldn't be embarrassed if anything happens." Of course I made the guy use a condom and PLENTY of lube (I cannot stress that enough).
So condom wise, there are many brands and varieties but ultimately the choice is up to you! Get something that you are comfortable with, because some come as lubed and unlubed (also flavored, ribbed, sensations, ect). Don't rush this part! As for lubes, there are tons of choices and its difficult to find the "best" one, so just look up reviews and try and pick the one you think is best!
I hope that this helps! I don't post often so when I do, I try to help 
Joshua
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Matt23, I have to say that you are getting a lot of great advise . Just remember that you don't want to use enemas all the time to clean out your body will get use to that and it can make going to the bathroom later a lot harder . I would say a douche or water for sure ! But this is opinion . I think that it is great that you both are willing to take your time and learn together . Just remember that it is not a race and you can take all the time you need to do not let anybody make you do anything that you are not comfortable and or ready for .You need to be the one in control of what happens to you that way you are not getting hurt and either is your partner . I wish you well and I hope that you enjoy your sexual experiences !!!!!
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Matt23 Wrote:Are you supposed to use condoms with oral sex? I really don't want to do that. He doesn't have any diseases He's probably "clean", but unless he's just been getting hand jobs from other guys, there is always a risk of picking up something orally. Check it out, or ask your doctor, or school nurse.
There are risks. Are they prevalent? It depends. I'm just reminding you, that sex can lead to STIs especially when they go unnoticed and untreated by the bearer.
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