03-01-2015, 01:37 AM
I'm a little stuck on how to support a friend of mine who has had a really tough 2 years. Her marriage broke down, her husband became abusive and the divorce has been difficult to say the least. But only a couple of months after leaving her husband she started seeing another guy, moved in with him and recently announced their engaged! She also just had a miscarriage.
I've tried being supportive as best I can through all this, but I think she made a mistake getting involved with someone again so quickly. And now their talking marriage and almost had a child together! She pretty much told me once that she was only with this guy because he was "nice" and he made her feel safe. I don't feel like that's enough and I'm afraid she's setting herself up for more heartache - am I wrong?
Should I tell her what I think? Or just pretend to be happy for her? I didn't voice concerns when she first started seeing her ex and regretted it massively. But she had made it clear to others that she doesn't want to hear anything negative about her current relationship. She says she knows what she's doing - or did pre-miscarriage, at the moment she seems all over the place. I don't know how best to help her.
I've tried being supportive as best I can through all this, but I think she made a mistake getting involved with someone again so quickly. And now their talking marriage and almost had a child together! She pretty much told me once that she was only with this guy because he was "nice" and he made her feel safe. I don't feel like that's enough and I'm afraid she's setting herself up for more heartache - am I wrong?
Should I tell her what I think? Or just pretend to be happy for her? I didn't voice concerns when she first started seeing her ex and regretted it massively. But she had made it clear to others that she doesn't want to hear anything negative about her current relationship. She says she knows what she's doing - or did pre-miscarriage, at the moment she seems all over the place. I don't know how best to help her.