Making my straight friend look gay.

[Wade]

So I have a kind of funny situation to go on about.

In fact, it's probably not a situation at all. If I just ignore it, nothing bad will happen, I'm sure.

I have a friend (I know, I'm surprised too. It's a fairly recent development). We're pretty close. And in the music department of my school it's well known that we're friends (he's quite popular. Not in a high school sort of way, just in a "he's involved in a lot of things so a lot of people know who he is" sort of way). We're always together, sharing dumb inside jokes and such. He's straight. I'm not.

Today I ran into him in front of a group of his friends and he told me that was about to conduct a small ensemble for a performance, but he forgot to dress appropriately. I happened to be wearing a white button down shirt. He asked if he could wear it. I said sure. So I took off the shirt and gave it to him.

The shirt I was wearing underneath was a shirt that said PRIDE in big rainbow colors I got a drag show a few months ago. Forgot I had it on. When I gave him the shirt someone in the group goes "aww... you guys are so cute."

So, I feel a little weird now that his friends may think that we're a couple. It's crossed my mind before that us being with each other all the time (and admittedly we do act slightly flirty in a weird, uhmm.... progressive way). But he's definitely straight.

Is this something I should be concerned about, you think? There's not much I can do, I guess. I just feel kind of bad for him.

[meridannight]

aww, that is cute.

i don't think there's reason for concern, unless he exhibits signs of reluctance towards being seen gay/being associated with you, or starts behaving weird toward you after this little 'incident'.

does he even know you're gay?

[Wade]

He does know I'm gay, and he's super cool. He's never shown any reluctance whatsoever. In fact, it's his total coolness about being with me, even when I happen to wear some pride gear (which I do cause... I don't know. I like it), that makes me feel bad. Like, I hope that just because he's a good friend he doesn't have to deal with people thinking he's not into ladies... you know what I mean?

Then again, it's his choice.

[Miles]

It'll be fine

[Wade]

I know you're right. I suppose I more wanted to share an anecdote than seek actual advice. And I have to say, when someone said "you two are so cute." I got so flustered. Not because of my friend, but because it just felt nice to hear, and would feel great to hear if I heard about someone I was actually with.

[Miles]

I know you're right. I suppose I more wanted to share an anecdote than seek actual advice. And I have to say, when someone said "you two are so cute." I got so flustered. Not because of my friend, but because it just felt nice to hear, and would feel great to hear if I heard about someone I was actually with.

It'll Get Gayer™

[tobias]

[Iceblink]

If a straight man and a straight woman are close friends and often hang out together, or a gay man and a straight woman, a straight man and a lesbian, a lesbian and a gay man, it is not uncommon for people to think they are a couple, so I guess the assumption is sometimes going to happen for a gay man and a straight man.

[Albie]

I wouldn't worry about it. People who seem to get along with everyone generally have a tendency to let things roll off their back. I mean if he doesn't care, why should you?

[Wade]

I mean if he doesn't care, why should you?

I knew there was something nagging at me when I wrote the first post. That's it. He doesn't care, so why do I? Not sure.

Not caring anymore...

Thank you. That's better.