So, I have been bi curious for several years, but never really done anything. I recently began talking to a guy through a social interaction site. All I was looking for was someone to hang out with and maybe more if it felt right because I am new to this. After talking for about a week or two we decided to finally meet up and hang out. We have now been hanging out for about a month. The first week we hung out like 4 nights in a row and now it is about 2-4 nights a week. Our hanging out quickly became cuddling and then making out and a couple other things but nothing sexual. We text daily, sometimes I text first sometimes he does. We also have a good amount in common. He has told me he is attracted to me and I told him i was attracted to him. He responded "good." He likes hanging out with me has told me when we make out he is comfortable doing anything I want to do. However, he is also a really chill laid back guy that is pretty relaxed about everything. He told me when we first started talking that he wasn't looking for nothing serious, and at the time neither was I. After getting to know him better, I think I may be starting to like him, which is a first for me. I am trying to figure out if he feels the same way. He and I flirt a decent amount and our make out sessions are pretty dang hot haha. I just don't know if gay guys are willing to do this in general, or if it means he may actually like me back (again, this is the first time I have done anything about this and no one else knows.)
Thank you in advance!
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Best thing you can do is to ask him if he likes you.
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Everything you posted says he likes you.
"He likes hanging out with me has told me when we make out he is comfortable doing anything I want to do."
This is chickenshit code for He wants sex and is too embarrassed to ask for it and wants you to make the first move.
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ca1050 Wrote:....I just don't know if gay guys are willing to do this in general, or if it means he may actually like me back (again, this is the first time I have done anything about this and no one else knows.) Sounds to me like he likes you... but there is SO much to learn. I would suggest you *both* just let yourselves do what feels right for the two of you. You know, relationships have to start somewhere.... and sometimes they go on for a few weeks or months and then, for whatever reason, no further. Sometimes, though, they grow into something substantial and may go on for years or even a life time. BUT the thing is, you don't need to "figure that out" or "anticipate" that NOW. For heaven's sake you're still getting to know -- not only one another -- buy yourselves. Who YOU are, what YOU like an don't -- and so on. So.... yes, even if he likes you, you need to give that some space to grow. Let him know how you feel! Open a space in yourself for him to be able to say how he feels, too.
Keep coming back and letting us know how this is all working out for you. If you have questions, we're here to try and help if we can! We all wish you both the best -- however this works out!
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Doesn't anyone just fuck anymore?
Ask him.
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Rareboy Wrote:Doesn't anyone just fuck anymore?
Ask him.
Yeah, every chance that I get...sometimes twice on Thursdays (I'm trying to find out what happens at his work on Thursdays that always sends him home hot and bothered...)
But yeah...back when I still characterized myself as curious, nothing was quite that clear. Question for the OP: You say that you haven't done anything sexual, but also say that your make-out sessions are pretty hot...? He said he'd be willing to do whatever you wanted to do...lol are you going to demand that he put that in writing...?
It's a bit early for analysis and declarations...it sounds like you're both interested and willing...maybe take the next make-out session a bit further. See what develops over time...
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Rareboy Wrote:Doesn't anyone just fuck anymore?
Ask him.
This is funny, because I feel like most "curious" guys do start with fucking and then they back off into dating at some point. It's almost like they want to try the fruit before committing to the fruit tree.
To the OP- what you have written is encouraging. Who initiates the texts? If it is evenly split or it is him, then this means that he is interested in hearing from you. Guys who are uninterested won't go out of their way to communicate.
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ca1050 Wrote:Our hanging out quickly became cuddling and then making out and a couple other things but nothing sexual.
I consider cuddling and making out "sexual". I mean, I don't cuddle and make out with my friends, you know what I mean? 
Yes, he likes you. And you like him. Start another make out session, and ask if you can shed the clothes this time. Play safe and have fun, damnit.
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MikeW Wrote:Keep coming back and letting us know how this is all working out for you. If you have questions, we're here to try and help if we can! We all wish you both the best -- however this works out!
Ok, I talked to him and brought about the fact that you don't just make-out with friends lol. He said that when we hang out, it just kind of happens. He also said he enjoys my company for sure. However, he also said he considers me a friend. BUT!! I told him I enjoy our hanging out and he replied that he enjoys it too and let's just see where things go. (Again he has said twice before he is not looking for anything serious, and I hope I may be changing his mind somewhat.)
For the past two weeks we haven't been hanging out as much and his texts are getting to where it can be anywhere from one minute to a couple of hours before he replies. He also seems to not want to hang out as much. I saw him one time last week, and all he wanted to do was cuddle and sleep (cuddling is his favorite thing). I still talk to him daily and give to invite to hang out if he wants, but he says he doesn't know because he may go out or do something and will let me know. The first two weeks of hanging out we did so like 4 times a week.
So, I don't know what is going to happen. He seems to be possibly loosing interest..? And I am still want to see more of him and see where things may go.
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ca1050 Wrote:Ok, I talked to him and brought about the fact that you don't just make-out with friends lol. He said that when we hang out, it just kind of happens. He also said he enjoys my company for sure. However, he also said he considers me a friend. BUT!! I told him I enjoy our hanging out and he replied that he enjoys it too and let's just see where things go. (Again he has said twice before he is not looking for anything serious, and I hope I may be changing his mind somewhat.)
For the past two weeks we haven't been hanging out as much and his texts are getting to where it can be anywhere from one minute to a couple of hours before he replies. He also seems to not want to hang out as much. I saw him one time last week, and all he wanted to do was cuddle and sleep (cuddling is his favorite thing). I still talk to him daily and give to invite to hang out if he wants, but he says he doesn't know because he may go out or do something and will let me know. The first two weeks of hanging out we did so like 4 times a week.
So, I don't know what is going to happen. He seems to be possibly loosing interest..? And I am still want to see more of him and see where things may go.
Well, it all sounds fine to me! Is he loosing interest? Perhaps... but what makes being with you "interesting" to him? No, seriously, think about that. I'm not suggesting I could know the answer, I sure don't, but it is a question worth considering yourself. What do we get out of being with another human being... and I don't mean just anyone but that "special someone" who we WANT to be with as much as possible. And what do we do when they don't feel exactly the same way? It's all fine when it is balanced, equal... but what if its not? Then what?
I love exploring questions like this! Anyway, good going and thanks for checking in! 
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