Does it hurt???

[thainhan]

thank you for giving me such useful advices .
well, a lot of things for me to remember. anyway, practising makes perfect. I'll try it some days

[reaper]

I've only done it twice. The first time it didn't hurt, and the second time (with a different guy) it did.

I made him stop and we haven't gone that route again. We probably will but we both seem pretty content with other sexual play.

I always joke and say that I'm the top, and he brings up that the one time we did that I was the bottom.

Still....I'm the top. lol.

[MikeW]

I think THE most important thing about bottoming is you have to WANT to have the sensation of the guy inside you. It has to give you "pleasure" in some sense of the word. Like the pleasure it gives me to give someone else pleasure. It is an awesome sensation BUT one that isn't always associated with the EROTIC. IOW, you know how you feel when you need to take a crap, the sensation of a full colon, the sensation of your sphincter opening and stretching, of letting something pass through it, etc.... Is that sexy? So, there' a kind of adjustment that has to go on inside one's self where we begin to associate that sensation (and a lot of other sensations like the oder, the 'heat', whatever other touching is going on) with feeling erotic, horny, hot and sexy, whatever you want to call it.

So, yes, it WILL hurt IF you are *resisting* the penetration. That's the thing. For sure, you have to be "warmed up" to it; you have to be "stretched out" and "lubed up". A good top knows how to do all this, to get you to a place where you WANT his dick inside you, you CRAVE that sensation *even if it does hurt or feel like you're about to take a crap*. It's like at a certain point, you get *beyond* al that and begin to enjoy the sensation and experience it *as sex* (rather than taking a dump).

In preparation it also helps to begin discovering your prostate for yourself while doing whatever gets you sexually excited.

[Darius]

I think some guys take to it like a fish to water. Others need time.
My first time hurt, so did the second and it wasn't for lack of the things mentioned above.
Let's face it, you are sticking something big and hard in a small hole....it can hurt.

[Beaux]

Not painful for me in the least. Lube. Foreplay. Relax.

When I got fucked the first time...I was totally ready for it...which probably helped.

^^This is true for some people, while some folks will always experience a little pain the first few times. Just like with anything else, some people are "naturals", while others require practice!

Good Luck!
~Beaux

[Butterfingers]

I would describe getting topped (to be polite) as a pleasant uncomfortable feeling, it likes being stretched to a point just short of pain, at least it was for me.
Also, it's psychological, to know a penis is in me, that I am pleasuring a man, serving his needs is a thought that is a turn on to me.
So, in the end, (pun intended) it should not hurt, but it my make you feel full, stretched and used in a wonderful way.
When you do it, please use protection.mile:

[thainhan]

I think THE most important thing about bottoming is you have to WANT to have the sensation of the guy inside you. It has to give you "pleasure" in some sense of the word. Like the pleasure it gives me to give someone else pleasure. It is an awesome sensation BUT one that isn't always associated with the EROTIC. IOW, you know how you feel when you need to take a crap, the sensation of a full colon, the sensation of your sphincter opening and stretching, of letting something pass through it, etc.... Is that sexy? So, there' a kind of adjustment that has to go on inside one's self where we begin to associate that sensation (and a lot of other sensations like the oder, the 'heat', whatever other touching is going on) with feeling erotic, horny, hot and sexy, whatever you want to call it.

So, yes, it WILL hurt IF you are *resisting* the penetration. That's the thing. For sure, you have to be "warmed up" to it; you have to be "stretched out" and "lubed up". A good top knows how to do all this, to get you to a place where you WANT his dick inside you, you CRAVE that sensation *even if it does hurt or feel like you're about to take a crap*. It's like at a certain point, you get *beyond* al that and begin to enjoy the sensation and experience it *as sex* (rather than taking a dump).

In preparation it also helps to begin discovering your prostate for yourself while doing whatever gets you sexually excited.

what if my lover, i meant the top, he hasn't had sex with anyone before or he was lack of experience?? I always look for one that has never make love before. now, I am really afraid of first love-making, some says it must be very painful if we dont have any experience in doing that.
anyway, thank you so much for your advice

[Butterfingers]

what if my lover, i meant the top, he hasn't had sex with anyone before or he was lack of experience?? I always look for one that has never make love before. now, I am really afraid of first love-making, some says it must be very painful if we dont have any experience in doing that.
anyway, thank you so much for your advice

The first time try sitting on him, (his penis), this way you can control what happens, at what speed and how deep.

[thainhan]

I think THE most important thing about bottoming is you have to WANT to have the sensation of the guy inside you. It has to give you "pleasure" in some sense of the word. Like the pleasure it gives me to give someone else pleasure. It is an awesome sensation BUT one that isn't always associated with the EROTIC. IOW, you know how you feel when you need to take a crap, the sensation of a full colon, the sensation of your sphincter opening and stretching, of letting something pass through it, etc.... Is that sexy? So, there' a kind of adjustment that has to go on inside one's self where we begin to associate that sensation (and a lot of other sensations like the oder, the 'heat', whatever other touching is going on) with feeling erotic, horny, hot and sexy, whatever you want to call it.

So, yes, it WILL hurt IF you are *resisting* the penetration. That's the thing. For sure, you have to be "warmed up" to it; you have to be "stretched out" and "lubed up". A good top knows how to do all this, to get you to a place where you WANT his dick inside you, you CRAVE that sensation *even if it does hurt or feel like you're about to take a crap*. It's like at a certain point, you get *beyond* al that and begin to enjoy the sensation and experience it *as sex* (rather than taking a dump).

In preparation it also helps to begin discovering your prostate for yourself while doing whatever gets you sexually excited.

what if my lover, i meant the top, he hasn't had sex with anyone before or he was lack of experience?? I always look for one that has never make love before. now, I am really afraid of first love-making, some says it must be very painful if we dont have any experience in doing that.
anyway, thank you so much for your advice

[thainhan]

The first time try sitting on him, (his penis), this way you can control what happens, at what speed and how deep.

ah ha, great idea!
by that way, i'll control everything.
thank you