boyfriend's virginity

[LJay]

Quick, get him to read Zorba the Greek by Nikos Kazantzakis.

Here is a bit of this astounding writer to chew on:

http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Nikos_Kazantzakis

[Rareboy]

He doesn't have a problem messing around with my upper body. "He feels that once we cross that line of actual penile contact that I will just want more and more , becoming more sexual and less sensual. He says that once sex enters the picture then it begins to "encompass" the relationship. that he will want it and i will want it and it will take away focus from other things."

WTF. Seriously. WTF.

He has issues about control and sexuality that you aren't going to help him solve.

He needs some serious clinical counselling.

You need a new boyfriend who regards sexual activity as being an integral part of a full relationship.