New here, Need some advice
06-17-2015, 08:40 AM
So Ive been in a committed 2 and a half year relationship. He is 36 I am 24. We live together and have just bought our first home together. So we're basically married.
We have been in our new home for nearly 2 months and we are literally bickering all the time. last night he told me that I dont care about our home and I dont act like I did in our previous rented properties -- The thing is I did not have a Job before we bought our home, so all there was to do was clean, cook, and make our home comfy. now that I am working I am so tired that the last thing I want to do when I get home is clean. I do however still cook dinner every night despite the fact that he arrives home before me and leaves for work after me. I know I might sound lazy as hell but my day literally starts @ 5:00am and I get home around 6:00pm, I drive over 100km to and from work and it really is tiring. I do understand however that a home needs to be kept neat and tidy and loved, but I am working too-- it needs to be a team effort.
I do take long to get into a routine and I do admit that I am not the tidiest of people, but Ive always been like this-- why is it such a issue all of a sudden? I do not fault him because its degrading and just plain ugly.
He does say hes stressed at work and needs a break and a little holiday, ( which we're leaving for this Friday), but I just think to myself is this how the rest of my life is going to be?? Fighting about nothing really... I love this man with all my heart but @ this moment in time I do not know what to do?
I know I could try and "participate" in house duties, which I am willing to do but something has to give from his side too?
Any thoughts guys?
We have been in our new home for nearly 2 months and we are literally bickering all the time. last night he told me that I dont care about our home and I dont act like I did in our previous rented properties -- The thing is I did not have a Job before we bought our home, so all there was to do was clean, cook, and make our home comfy. now that I am working I am so tired that the last thing I want to do when I get home is clean. I do however still cook dinner every night despite the fact that he arrives home before me and leaves for work after me. I know I might sound lazy as hell but my day literally starts @ 5:00am and I get home around 6:00pm, I drive over 100km to and from work and it really is tiring. I do understand however that a home needs to be kept neat and tidy and loved, but I am working too-- it needs to be a team effort.
I do take long to get into a routine and I do admit that I am not the tidiest of people, but Ive always been like this-- why is it such a issue all of a sudden? I do not fault him because its degrading and just plain ugly.
He does say hes stressed at work and needs a break and a little holiday, ( which we're leaving for this Friday), but I just think to myself is this how the rest of my life is going to be?? Fighting about nothing really... I love this man with all my heart but @ this moment in time I do not know what to do?
I know I could try and "participate" in house duties, which I am willing to do but something has to give from his side too?
Any thoughts guys?
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