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Need some opinions
#1
I have this guy who is the driver delivering food to our restaurant. He just started like 6 months ago and he is really cute. Pretty much since the beginning, I just got attracted by him. I got his number and we text for a while. Sometimes I make some food for him. My coworkers are all telling me that I shouldn't. I just feel bad because he gotta drive all night and deliver stuff without eating anything for 8 hours straight. If it was me, I would feel so great if someone cares about me and got me something nice to eat. Anyway, he lives with his best friend, and he mentioned that he has a girlfriend. But here is the thing, except once he mentioned that, never ever after I heard anything about her. For six months we've been talking and hanging out, nothing. When we go hangout or drinking, or even holidays, he would have different people around but never his girlfriend. He eats lunch alone everyday as well. I know some people say that it's my mind set that made me think that way, but I always wonders...
He only talks to me though he do know other people in my restaurant. We just constantly texting and telling each other what's going on. I have to admit that I'm so much happier when I'm around him. I suppose my coworkers also says I'm acting more positive and active around him. More friendly in general. I feel like an idiot could tell that I have a gigantic crush on him. Almost half the restaurant and the whole kitchen team noticed.
I'm just wondering is it possible that he could at least be bi? I'm going to travel for a while and he was asking me how can he keep in touch with me while I'm away. We just have endless topics to talk about everyday.
Ps. Usually when I talk to guys especially the ones I like, I don't know how to talk to them, awkward and all that. So this is such a different experience.
I would love to hear some opinions about this. Thanks, guys.
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#2
Well maybe he just wants to be your friend. If he's all by himself all the time, this might mean he's introvert and shy and since you've shown friendliness towards him, he's trying to keep in touch with you. It doesn't have to be more than that.
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#3
That's one of my guesses too. I'm not gonna tell him anything about my crush. My coworkers talk to him too, but his responses are usually just laugh and maybe a word or two. Nothing more. Then he would turn back talking to me. Anyway, I think you could be right and probably is.
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#4
I've had this feeling toward one of my closest friends; everything about him is so cute. We're very kind with each other, he's generous and caring, and recently I grew a sudden crush him. I don't care if he's straight/bi/gay, all I know is he's a very good friend, as much as I needed one.

Seems like you got that in a plate of gold. You can control your crush until it's gone for good, just like I did, to avoid ruining your friendship. Keep in touch with him, and if someday he turns out to be gay/bi, time will reveal it as you get close to each other.

Remember, everything happens for a reason, and it's not always about love.
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#5
I would just continue the friendship and if something happens eventually..it happens...but enjoy the friendship in the present....

As with everything in life...it is about the journey more than the destination...and since you click well with him and have a great time with the friendship...let that be your goal....one day at a time...

Thing is...on some level..he must sense it....and if he feels that way about you...it will unfold naturally...just don't expect it. If you force it...it may cost you the friendship ...
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#6
Just allow the friendship to flow. Maybe reveal to him your gay/bi. Don't make a big deal out of it. Just mention it. If he does like you, he'll reveal his feelings for you when he is ready.
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#7
I know that he is totally fine with gay people. Well, I work with lot of them. I think there are many times he walked in when we are talking about something about gay or something about me being gay. Not sure but I think it's still to early to tell him or something. I'd say see if we still hangout and be friends after traveling and days apart.
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#8
Pascal Wrote:I know that he is totally fine with gay people. Well, I work with lot of them. I think there are many times he walked in when we are talking about something about gay or something about me being gay. Not sure but I think it's still to early to tell him or something. I'd say see if we still hangout and be friends after traveling and days apart.
Perhaps he does know you're gay. But sometimes you have to be sure. Some guys can be totally oblivious. Where someone can easily tell, others can't.

I agree with you about waiting to see where things go after your travels. Just don't get too invested cause of your crush, only to find out he is straight with a girlfriend. You may end up hurt
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#9
You don't know if he is gay or bi and he doesn't know that about you either. The ball is in your court on this one. Personally, I would make sure he knows about you.

The one thing you do know is that you like each other and enjoy spending time together. At the very least, you have made a friend. Maybe he really appreciates that you took the initiative to be friends with him because it's not easy for him to do that. And maybe he is interested in more, but how would you know if neither one of you says anything?

Show him your wiener.
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#10
I agree with what [MENTION=21957]Darius[/MENTION] said, except maybe you shouldn't whip it out just yet...a guy did that to me a couple weeks ago and it Didn't End Well...

But seriously...you need to tell him that you're gay...you don't need to make a big deal of it, just in conversation...if he says that he isn't, you can reassure him that the 2 of you are friends, etc., no big deal...I'm assuming that you want to keep him as a friend, no matter what...coming on to him overtly might scare him off if he isn't gay...

There's absolutely no way to know where he's at with this without having an actual conversation about it...I hope it works out the way you want it to!
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