Advice for a soon to be 18 year old!

[Anocxu]

Okay so
Life= 1st look up quotes from nurses about people on there death bead and there regrets 2nd Happiness is your #1 goal in life "i want a nice car/house" no you want happiness "i want a job that pays alot" GOD NO never work somewhere you hate 3rd live well below your means if you can you can get used to any living situation with time
Sex= If you don't know about STDs and AIDs I'm going to punch you in the dick 2nd if all you want is sex (you are 17) you might as well be in a relationship you will get WAY WAY WAAAAAYYYY more sex that way 3rd always use protection not only for you but your partner(s)
Dating= 1st love is all about a physiological consent called "Pair Bonding" (google it) here is some advice on how to strengthen that Bond : a 30+ sec hug every time you see your partner (or however often you can see each other but at least one time a day) REALLY makes the bond strong 2nd do something with or for them as often as you can this includes the touching we just talked about 3rd you need to have a times through out your relationship when you talk to each other in a "safe space" where you both remove your selves from the rest of the world for that conversation and that conversation can be about ANYTHING with no retaliation "your mother is a cunt to me" "you don't kiss me as much as you use to" "do we still want to be in this relationship"

you will get more advice im sure from other but those where the top things i could think of off the top of my head

I really ..really loved that post..

It actually answer a few questions I had about random things..

[Virge]

Dating= 1st love is all about a physiological consent called "Pair Bonding" (google it) here is some advice on how to strengthen that Bond : a 30+ sec hug every time you see your partner (or however often you can see each other but at least one time a day) REALLY makes the bond strong 2nd do something with or for them as often as you can this includes the touching we just talked about 3rd you need to have a times through out your relationship when you talk to each other in a "safe space" where you both remove your selves from the rest of the world for that conversation and that conversation can be about ANYTHING with no retaliation "your mother is a cunt to me" "you don't kiss me as much as you use to" "do we still want to be in this relationship"

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This is stuff I'm GLAD to read someone else preaching about besides me. Especially the "safe place" concept... boy oh boy that's what I love most about being so dang bonded with this smart ass I can't rid of. we can and do discuss anything, fears, flaws, insecurities etc... and the mutual pay offs are huge. Jay knows all the things that I'm sensitive about, things people can say that hurt.. and I don't have to worry about getting huffed up about them. By being totally open and honest with him he is more protective of my soft spots than I am with other people. I'm more protective of his soft spots than he is. Then we can turn around 15 minutes later and actually pick at each other's soft spots and it's fun... almost like foreplay. hahahaha! Lots of times I totally miss the cues of him being protective of me because they're so natural and subtle.

When we go places around strangers, particularly gay bars, Jay is going to hold on to my right hand 99.99% of the time and I enjoy that A LOT. He's been doing it since 2008 after I lost a finger and was real sensitive about it and didn't like explaining it all to every single person who noticed it every single place we went. Now, after 2 great reconstructive surgeries, most people don't even notice it at first and I'm not sensitive at all about it.... but the little mo-fo doesn't give a shit. Hahahaha! He's going to hold on to my hand anyway... because he likes the feeling it gives him to be protective. And I'm the same way about things with him...

The only time he and I argue is for fun, playing just to pick at each other. When there's a serious issue between us we what BPB would call "go to the safe place" and open up right to the cores of our souls... and talk it through and usually laugh about it as we do.

When you get like that in a relationship sex moves up about 5 points on the Ritcher Scale.... and you can get boned up over stupid crap like a smile while picking out socks in Walmart... hahahaha!

[VirgoMasquerade]

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When you get like that in a relationship sex moves up about 5 points on the Ritcher Scale.... and you can get boned up over stupid crap like a smile while picking out socks in Walmart... hahahaha!

Oh god, Those random boners while walking around the mall

[andresrey]

Don't have sex, you will get pregnant and die.



*Mean girls reference*

[Virge]

Oh god, Those random boners while walking around the mall

That's why I always push the buggy when shopping with Jay. He loves to exert his power - push my buttons and get me all woody until I have to get down on my elbows to push the buggy hunched over to keep from scaring kids and old women....and 7th Day adventists.

Rape in the Walmart parking lot over by the garden shop aint half bad either.

[jimcrackcorn]

Advice for 18 year old's......

Well let me think...

First, always wear shirts that go down low, past your crotch,, because they hide boners. This may not look all that great, but it successfully hides what needs to be hidden.

Second, always have a safe way to get home when your out partying. Friends may disappear, and strangers may try to take advantage of you instead of giving you a ride home,,, which may lead to your being stranded on a street corner.

Third, When a nice looking older man (like me) with a gentle face ask if you want to come over to his place for hot coco,,,,, don't go... He may drug you and take you into his basement and chain you to a wall!!!!

Fourth,,, don't drink more than 2 alcohol drinks per hour while out having fun. Overindulgence in alcohol will get you into situations you will regret the next day. I had a friend who went out, had a few to many,,, and wound up in Hawaii the next morning and didn't know how he got there... He started out the night drinking in San Diego California!!! Oops!!!

Lastly,,, that 3 year old condom in your wallet has probably expired,,, so,,, don't leave home without a newly bought package of condoms.. Safe Sex comes first.............

Old Fart,
Jimeroooo

[JCasey]

The biggest and best lesson I have learned is confidence. But confidence without knowledge is foolhardy. Whatever you are doing, always learn what you can ahead of time so that you can make informed decisions. However, never let your confidence become arrogance. If you are good at something, don't flaunt it.