I'm sorry that you have to read this.

[himself]

Ach, Kansas City! What would you be wanting coming from Kansas City? Sure I live on a hill on rural Ireland and I'm fucking grand, so I am. Kansas City, my eye!

[Blank]

How do I deactivate my account? That's what I want, coming from Kansas City.

[East]

How do I deactivate my account? That's what I want, coming from Kansas City.

You need to ask Andy to delete it..send a message to the admin..and he will do it for you after a waiting period.

I want to tell you to relax...but I don't like walking on eggshells and I am not sure how you would take it...so I will just say welcome and if you do leave...sorry to see you go...

[Gideon]

I'm a little bit lost here...You got a few responses within an hour's time, all of which welcoming you. Virge even warned you about the dreaded 50 post newbie nightmare and somehow you're offended and feel unwelcome?

Did I miss something?

[Blank]

Being ad hominem insulted as soon as I step my foot through the door isn't really the best feeling for me. I'd rather just deac and find somewhere else to go. When you're bullied a lot of your life, and then, ironically, you get similar treatment from a mod on a gay forum, you start to rethink whether or not it's really worth fighting for.

I really don't care at this point. You guys can have your community.

[Cobalt]

Well, all I will contribute here is that from what I can see nothing malicious was intended. The joke may have been misinterpreted but that's all it was, a misunderstanding. If you still want to leave over that then I suppose all I can say is farewell and we hardly knew you.

[TigerLover]

Being ad hominem insulted as soon as I step my foot through the door isn't really the best feeling for me.

Virge's comment was stupid. But I do know that he certainly was't intending to insult you. He was just trying to make you feel welcome in his own way.

Oh well goodbye man and better luck at your next forum.

[Gideon]

Dude I think you got entirely the wrong idea. The 50 post moderation thing is automated and intended to keep spammers off our forum. It isn't personal and it isn't something Andy sits around and does to pick on people. The system just kicks messages out randomly to be reviewed until you hit 50 posts and then it stops.

Virge was attempting to warn you so that you didn't think it -was- a personal attack or that you did something wrong if that happens to you like it did to ALL of us.

We don't much like bullies around here, and if you give us a chance, you might find some of us are actually pretty cool.

And from My personal experience? Most forums are not half as welcoming or friendly as the people here.

[Blank]

Well, all I will contribute here is that from what I can see nothing malicious was intended. The joke may have been misinterpreted but that's all it was, a misunderstanding. If you still want to leave over that then I suppose all I can say is farewell and we hardly knew you.

Regardless, people shouldn't be greeted/welcomed that way. Whether or not the insult was playful, it still felt insulting all the same. It made me incredibly uncomfortable, and that's not fair to me. I wouldn't do that to a stranger I didn't know. Would you?

Especially a stranger who's sensitive enough as it is, trying to find a place to be. It's upsetting.

[Cobalt]

Okay, I'm going to level with you here. I'm extremely sensitive, insecure, paranoid, and have been bullied before. I've been pretty much a life-long loner and I easily get insulted and take it personally. I encourage you to just call a spade a spade. This was just a minor misunderstanding. Maybe Virge came on a little too strong for someone with your (and for the hell of it I'll just say "mine" too so you don't feel alone here) personality/sensibilities. That doesn't mean you should set the whole house on fire though and burn it all to the ground before you even started living in it. From what I've seen here (as mostly a lurker) this is a nice community. You would be doing yourself a disservice by leaving. Stick it out, your first post was pretty full of life and I actually enjoyed it. You seem like you've got something to offer here and something to gain. Don't quit before you've even started playing.

Why I "wasted" time on someone who is probably going to leave anyway doesn't matter to me. I'm reaching out to you because I want to and feel like this is just a big silly mistake that went a little too far. Please, just calm down a little bit and think about your decision a little more.