08-15-2015, 12:35 PM
darren23a Wrote:I'm not against sex without a relationship generally. I think I stopped it because he's a friend. If it was a stranger I'd hooked up with then I wouldn't be bothered as it would have just been a bit of casual fun.Beautifuly said.
I'm already emotionally invested in this guy, we have a history and because of the previous flirtation leading up to the moment, at the time it just felt like having sex with him would have largely complicated matters and until we were more clear about each others motivations I felt it would have been a mistake to go along with it.
'Friends with benefits' just doesn't work for me and I have tried. I'm fine with casual hookups but any prolonged relationship with somebody becomes predominately emotional for me. Sex with somebody I have built a relationship up with is like the icing on the cake, something extra on top of something more fundamentally important. I guess that's why I don't have a specific type when it comes to sexual partners.