I hate my dad ...

[TigerLover]

I did look back and read of the OP's threads and it's continually bitching on his part. He needs to man up.

So you think someone talking about his problems and expressing his frustration is unmanly. Well in fact bottling up all your anger and sadness until it explodes and harms the people around you is childish, pathetic and very unmanly. This sort of fucking "thinking" drives me up the wall it's the reason why men on average wait far longer to go to the doctor leading to much lower cancer survival rates in men than women. Why the male suicide rate is always much higher. Because of this whole "talking is weakness just solve your problems yourself" attitude,

I found a way to go to france after I graduate which is in two years.. I just hope it works. Figures crossed!

Does that sound like the reaction of a immature drama queen to you? He's found a practical solution to his problem and he's deploying it.

Now I mean this seriously. Have you ever lived with someone verbally abusive before? I have. The insults just keep piling up. it never fucking ends and it just grinds you down. It spoils all your good moods and makes your bad days far worse. It seriously lowers you're standard of living and it's not something that can be magically wished away by "manning up".

The world is not against you unless you want them to be against you

WTF man no one is saying the world is against him, he actually mentioned a few people in particular. If fact this whole post is about one person his zealot dad. How do you get "the world is against me" from that.

[CellarDweller]

I found a way to go to france after I graduate which is in two years.. I just hope it works. Figures crossed!

I hope you are able to keep the peace between you and your father for the next two years. Be on guard, but do your best not to ruffle his feathers.

As for posts here criticizing you, give them the blind eye and deaf ear they deserve.

[CaptainAwesome]

Aww Verysimple...Sorry to hear that.
Hope your plan works out and things get better for you.

[Camfer]

... The best I can do is, just stay out of their sight....It's that they don't recognize emotional abuse ....Lately, he's been threatening to use a knife on me, and he's been doing it a lot...

Yes, keep away as much as you can. Try to live on a different schedule in the same house. When things are really bad, stay at a friend's house for the night.

I think with enough compromises you can find a way to move out right now. I grew up in an emotionally abusive household. At one point after I left, I lived in a one bedroom apartment with 6 other people. I slept on a cold hard floor with my friend. There were 2 beds, 2 people in each of those beds, and one person on an air mattress in the hallway. He would blow up the mattress each night and have to deflate it in the morning so people could get from the bedroom to the kitchen. When some people went to work early I could actually sleep in a bed for a couple hours. We survived on rice and beans and stale pita that one of my roommates brought from his work. For me, it was the right decision. It was insanely crowded in that apartment, but I had emotional support, I was happier, and I wasn't homeless.

Now, you asked for no advice here, so forgive me for this suggestion. Have you considered a martial art training such as Brazilian jiu jitsu? I mention this for a number of reasons. In BJJ you can learn to defend yourself. It gives you an activity out of the house. It gives you something positive to focus on. It gets you into a community of positive, disciplined people, if you find the right academy. Part of the philosophy is to know how to fight so you don't have to fight.

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[LONDONER]

I have no reason to apologize. I did look back and read of the OP's threads and it's continually bitching on his part. He needs to man up. The world is not against you unless you want them to be against you.

You have every reason to apologise. This chat is primarity for support, not criticism. If you have nothing positive to say then shut up.

[verysimple]

that's good, I would still find somewhere else to stay until then. I'm sure the years will fly by if you keep busy but I don't like that your father is threatening with violence.

Yes, thank you! <3

I always am busy.. school, volunteering, workshops... going out all sorts of activities .. u k?

[verysimple]

You can always do what we in america do.
Take out a rather large life insurance policy on them and.... j/k
Threatening you with a knife is a big deal
Maybe you could live with a friend? Or make some friends and maybe a bf then you could live with them?
I would seriously talk to some local store owners or something if they are hiring and see if they perhaps could shelter/feed you rather than pay?
worrying about being knifed by your dad is a bit much... I would stop calling him your father/dad and start calling him the sperm donor or something he sounds like apiece of ****.

Makes a lot of sense.. I don't really look at him as my father or anything like that I look at him just like what you told me.. a sperm donor .. But because this is the social norm label that I got used to since childhood .. lol

[verysimple]

If you take away the whole knife threatening thing, then it sounds like the ordinary "time to move out" period alot of 17-999 year olds go through.
If you can't find a way to move out just yet, then you will have to suck it up for a while longer. Two years will fly by. Just hang in there and use us for venting.

By all means that's what I am doing .. Thank you for understanding! <3

[verysimple]

WOW onTheBeach you must be new here. If you look back at verysimple's past post you may get a better understanding of what he has been through and is currently going through. You may want to do some research before you fire back with a comment like that!

Verysimple, I have kept up with your post and I feel for you. Just hang in there until a better situation comes along. I hope it wont take long. You are here with a fantastic group of people that will give you support when you need it. Vent away!!

Thank you dear, some people though.. Huh? Man, I've dealt with people like him my whole life... I won't waste a second on his ignorant ass..

[verysimple]

Sounds like your father totally understands you. If you just want to sit on your lazy ass and do nothing --- I'd kick you out of the house. You're a very ungrateful person.

Don't you dare ever judge me again... YOU, know absolutely nothing about me or my life. I don't come here to argue with shits like you cuz I already deal with them everyday in my life. This site is for support. So either have a point or stfu. You don't like my thread, don't read it! Simple. You don't like this site then go to some toxic site where everyone judges/ criticizes everyone... No need for diva attitudes here.