What does it feel like to be model handsome/pretty?

[ShyBoy]

Hi, maybe it's a stupid question, but I am curious.

My self image is very poor ( due to my crooked bottom teeth, crooked spine). The fact that my face face and my body as a whole are far from bad makes me feel even worse, because it's like "I COULD look like all those hot people....but I will never be like them because of those "little" flaws..."

It makes me feeling unhappy with my life and caused me a depression.

So I ask you, prefect boys/girls, what's it like if you are one of those lucky model-like looking people? Please I want to know, does it make you feel better all the time? Like even your day is bad you can always say "Oh God, I look so good" aand feel better?

They say that poor body image is caused by those "unrealistic" beatiful people from magazines etc., but I don't think so, cause I see a bunch of people with flawless appearance every day and they are completely real :/

[starlight]

My opinion on the models are that most if not all of them suffer body image issues no matter how *perfect* they or anyone see them selves.

[Insertnamehere]

There are no "perfect" boys and girls. Granted, some are better looking than others, as perceived by a complex system of social and personal variables.

I'm not one of those "good looking ones" or at least I don't think I am. So I get where you're coming from.

But, you are focusing way too much on a few things you deem bad when you admit, overall, your appearance is good to you. To stop doing this will require greater maturity and a change of mind. Things that will come sooner or later for you.

Furthermore, the things you mention can be fixed.

If you have money, or in the future when you do, get a dentist to treat your crooked teeth. Now, at your age, I assume you haven't checked yout third molars, which are most likely the reason why your bottom teeth are crooked (mine are too, for the same reason). You will have to get them removed and then have the crooked teeth corrected.

As for a crooked spine, I would think it can be treated too, although I'm not knowledgeable on the how.

Now, I see you are in a relationship, so if everything is ok, it means that he doesn't think those little flaws are a deal breaker. If he does, however, or any other guy rejects you over those petty things, then those are not guys anyone would want as BFs.

Self-perception is a complicated thing, I know, but work on expanding the variables that you consider while making an ssessment of your worth. You appearance is but a fraction of what you are, and not likely the most important one.

[ShyBoy]

Northlad: Maybe, I myself sometimes feel anxious that I could "lose" some of my good traits. I can easily imagine how I would be scared if I was perfect.

Insertnamehere: Of course no one is really perfect, but I call perfect those who are loved by thousands of others. Anyway, I know there is still a chance for me. I could go to the dentists and ask for braces etc. I am just afraid and angry at the same time because what is bad about slightly crooked teeth? We are tought that everyone has to have a wide and pearl white smile today. Why should I feel like someone less and get a "fake" smile for lots of money? Yes, it looks nice, but my boyfriend loves me the way I am. He even thinks my teeth are cute. I still want to get them fixed though, because of my own bad opinion on myself.

The spine can't be fixed without a surgery acording to my doctor and it's not bad enough for the surgery.

[LONDONER]

As Insertnamehere has said, everything can be fixed somehow or other, it's a question of time and money. As far as what models think of themselves, I think that that many have self body doubts also and the mere fact that they have to spend so much time and money on maintenance must be a real pain in the arse. You have to remember also that so many of the models you see in magazines and papers have spent hours in the makeup room and then are usually quite heavily Photoshopped. Don't be fooled and don't judge yourself by comparing yourself to them.

[ceez]

And don't forget about the extremely strict diet they're on. I heard about an Ambecrombie and Fitch model losing his job for eating a croissant.

[ShyBoy]

Thanks for responding, I think you are all right.

I know my teeth can be fixed, but it just still makes me feel like a crap when everyone in my class has "perfect" (at least better than me) teeth. The same with the spine, it's like I have won some kind of "natural lotery" :/. My doctor (after I tried physio therapy) said that my spine is crooked foever, mom says I had that different shape since birth. The only way to fix it would be a surgery, but my case is not so bad for it. I hope I'll at least defeat my fear of dentist and get my teeth fixed.

I talked about my poor body imageto my dad and also a psychiatric doctor, they both constantly (+ my boyfriend and friends) assure me that they wouldn't notice anything and that I am fine. It doesn't matter how hard they try, it seems nothing can persuate me, I still horribly hate my body.

Today I found about "thinspiration" and I would like to try to lose some weight to look better. Maybe it would make me feel better? I am 191 cm tall and my weight is 76 kg. I think I eat too much and I still manage to weight the same. Do you think I will lose weight if I will just eat less under these circumstances?

[ShyBoy]

Thanks for responding, I think you are all right.

I know my teeth can be fixed, but it just still makes me feel like a crap when everyone in my class has "perfect" (at least better than me) teeth. The same with the spine, it's like I have won some kind of "natural lotery" :/. My doctor (after I tried physio therapy) said that my spine is crooked foever, mom says I had that different shape since birth. The only way to fix it would be a surgery, but my case is not so bad for it. I hope I'll at least defeat my fear of dentist and get my teeth fixed.

I talked about my poor body imageto my dad and also a psychiatric doctor, they both constantly (+ my boyfriend and friends) assure me that they wouldn't notice anything and that I am fine. It doesn't matter how hard they try, it seems nothing can persuate me, I still horribly hate my body.

Today I found about "thinspiration" and I would like to try to lose some weight to look better. Maybe it would make me feel better? I am 191 cm tall and my weight is 76 kg. I think I eat too much and I still manage to weight the same. Do you think I will lose weight if I will just eat less under these circumstances?

[kindy64]

Looks change with time...

Was 6'3" and 110lbs coming out of high school at 18... (193cm/50kg) was super thin forever, till I got a decent job and ate very well at lunch, then dinner with the folks, and dinner with one of my best friends... Now, I'm 6'4 1/2" and 210lbs, and time has taken it's toll. But I have a much greater appreciation that I wasn't the troll I thought I was when I was young, and that people (guys and gals) actually find me attractive. Only took me 33 years to feel that way.

Don't strive to be perfect, be yourself.

(Sidetrack, I thought on reading the title, that's like asking, what's it like to be hung like a pornstar? It's a curse, I tell you, a curse...)

[LONDONER]

Today I found about "thinspiration" and I would like to try to lose some weight to look better. Maybe it would make me feel better? I am 191 cm tall and my weight is 76 kg. I think I eat too much and I still manage to weight the same. Do you think I will lose weight if I will just eat less under these circumstances?

I'm 175cms and just wish that I could weigh 75 kilos! The most I ever managed was 74. To gain those extra kilos means my going back to the gym and pumping iron to gain muscle mass and that's hard work. Hey fella, at 191 cms. I think you need to gain some weight.